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Watch Me Glow Up

What happens when you don't peak in high school.

Chances are, the super popular kids from your high school probably aren't doing much now. And that super shy, but seriously smart kid from your bio class freshman year is a total smokeshow and has a full ride to an Ivy League. It's the way it always goes.

And I'm also going to go ahead and take a guess that you yourself did not peak in high school. While it may have sucked at the time, you're one of the lucky ones. Here's why.

You see so many people who peaked early end up at community college in your hometown.
I'm not bashing community college here. What I am bashing is people who stick around because they're so scared to leave the small-time fame and popularity they had in high school behind.

They peaked so hard that they aren't really sure where their life will go from there. That's a pretty sad thing for an 18-year-old kid. Thank God you have plenty of peaking left to do, and can look forward to new places and new adventures without the fear that you've already experienced the best life has to offer you.

The people who were rude to you in high school want to be your best friend now.
It's a classic Cinderella story. (Wow, that was fucking cheesy.) Honestly though, high-school-wallflower-turns-successful-and-attractive-adult is a tale as old as time. Plus it always ends in "popular" kids from your high school either wanting to fuck you or be you. Too bad they didn't see how great you were then. You're on to bigger and better things.

You probably won't peak in college either.
This is just as much of a blessing as not peaking in high school is. If I have 75-plus years on this Earth I'm going to be super bummed if I hit my peak before I even turn 22. There is so much life to live after school--but you already knew that.

You're more successful than your peers.
If you didn't peak in high school it's probably because you were too busy focusing on other things. While you had your good group of friends, a thriving social life probably wasn't the top priority in your life. You were focused on grades or a passion turned side hustle and trust me, if that isn't benefiting you now, it's definitely going to.

You're more content wherever you are in your life.
You don't have any expectations for how much people will love you or how many friends you have. You're taking it day by day and enjoying everything life has to offer. It's not that your expectations are low, you've just learned from watching the people who peaked in high school that being popular and cool isn't necessarily a key to a solid life.

You have a lot to look forward to.
There is reward in not peaking too young. You get the chance to look forward to something exciting. You get the chance to live everyday knowing you're only getting better. It's all uphill from here.

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10 Benefits of Bringing Your High School Relationship to College

As if great sex isn't enough of a reason to stay with your SO.

You rarely hear your friends mention any benefits of staying in their high school relationship through college, but you always hear their worries and complaints. These complaints are valid and probably accurate at the time, but when you look at the big picture you see the true benefits of staying in your relationship.

You have a piece of home to hold onto.
College is exciting, but it can also be scary at the beginning. You're thrown into a new place with new people and you're all alone. In my case, I moved to a big city and went to a school with nobody from my high school. Staying in my relationship gave me something from home. It was comforting to have someone who knew everything about me that I knew I could completely trust.

You avoid being a thot.
A huge benefit that goes unnoticed. I watched some of my closest friends hook up with boys and do things when they were blackout that they really regretted. The amount of times I had to bring them clothes and pick them up at boys houses the morning after was incalculable. Sure, I did a lot of stupid things and got a few of injuries when I was drunk, but none of them included hooking up with a teammate's boyfriend, waking up next to a boy at a completely different school, or getting STDs (yikes).

You have time to do your work.
Not having your boyfriend or girlfriend at the same school makes it easier for you to get a lot more work done because you're able to focus on your schoolwork without having to deal with one of the biggest distractions ever. Seeing my friends study with their boyfriends or guys that they're talking to is cute and all, but they end up complaining about how they still have to work on that problem set or essay because their study session turned into a hookup session.

You become a hella good friend and wingman or woman.
Without constantly dealing with the drama of trying to find a boyfriend, I realized how much of a good friend I became. I had SO much time for my friends and was able to be there for them through a lot of tough shit. I became a dependable friend they could go to for advice and a great wing woman at bars or at parties, for both my guy and girl friends.

You won't get sick of each other.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder, right? Not breathing down each other's necks and allowing each other to grow and live apart is healthy. In fact, it was really good for my relationship. It just proved that we were happy to be with each other despite everything. I never got sick of him, instead I replaced that feeling with just missing him. I would rather miss him rather than be annoyed with him any day.

Cost efficient.
Another benefit that goes unnoticed. My boyfriend mentioned to me how much money on food he saved while we were away at college. He's a finance major and I really love food (lol), and to his disdain, I ended up draining his bank account pretty quickly. I didn't buy him random things as much as I did in the summer or when we were in high school because I didn't really think it was a priority anymore. What mattered more was me getting to see him in general.

New friends.
Not only do you have your new friends at your new school, but you also have his. Visiting and facetiming you SO gives you the opportunity to befriend and meet new people. One of my best guy friends has his girlfriend visit our school often and her and I have grown closer with each visit. When I visit my boyfriend's school, I meet new people and form new friendships too.

Avoiding the shitty college hookup scene.
I've watched my best friends cry over how shitty the boys are in college and how they feel like they can't find anyone. No guy wants to commit, despite wanting consistent hookups. I watch boys toy around with my friends and lead them on. People always ask me if I get bored or want to hook up with other people and I have to say I just don't see the appeal. Maybe I'm just weird.

The sex is always great.
I am completely comfortable with my SO and he knows what I like, which takes time and trust. Why burn through a bunch of people trying to find great sex when you already have it? Not only do I not trust any of the boys at my school, but colleges are also home to STDs and boys who don't know what they're doing in bed. I'll pass, thanks though.

You have an unwavering support system.
He's stuck by me through my awkward teenage years and already dealt with meeting my parents. He's calmed me down with my psycho rampages where I question everything I'm doing with my life or when I've questioned our relationship. He's been witness to all my successes and failures and always been there for me to lean on. His support is truly unrivaled and without it, I don't know where I would be.

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How To Ensure That You Didn't Peak In High School

The best is yet to come, people.

Ahh high school. Those four years were some of the most formative of your life- you had your first homecoming dance, your first real heartbreak, your first joint. It was in those hallways that you started to decide what kind of people you wanted to surround yourself with and what kind of person you wanted to be.

But there was a time and a place for all that, and if you've already received your diploma, that time is in the past. We applaud you quarterback, prom queen, and class pres. You truly reined supreme in the cafeteria. But all good things must come to end because no one wants to be that creepy grad who keeps showing up to the football games.

There's nothing wrong with having enjoyed your four years of high school, but here's how to make sure that's not where you peak.

Forget the FOMO.
Back in the glory days, parties could be few and far between. Missing a house party was sure to leave you in the dark on the juicy gossip being mulled over in homeroom and the dish on who went to third base in Kyle's parent's bathroom. But even worse than being unable to attend was receiving no invite at all...those bitches.

Nowadays if you wake up with a news feed of red solo cups, you shouldn't sweat it. Sure you want to see your own friends, but if another crew has a banger and you weren't on the list, that's just one less drunken conversation about your intended major that you have to have.

Let your demons die.
The hallways of high school were like a minefield. Not only did you have to deal with your own enemies, but those of your friends as well. Because no one crosses MY crew and gets away with it. No one.

But hey, we're all in the real world now, and even though Becca stole your prom dress when you clearly bought it first, it's about that time to stop cursing her name every time she comes up in conversation. When you can care less about all the petty bullshit that went down in high school, you know you've made it out.

Understand that high school events are for high schoolers.
Senior year you probably all made vows to come back for just one more basketball game, or crash the annual valentines party. But hopefully upon marching across that graduation auditorium packed with overeager sweaty parents, a thought struck you: I am so getting out of here.

We all remember those alumni for lingering far too many years with us in the student section or sitting in the background of parties, a little too eager to take pictures with the newly budding sophomore girls. Don't be that human.

High school was great, but there is a whole lot greater left to come. Sure, remembering those shaping years of our lives can be nostalgic, but keep it at that; distant memories you can look back on, blur out the details you didn't like, and give a little wistful sigh as you romanticize the height of your puberty.

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High School vs. College

It's a whole new ballgame, people.

Throughout high school, my teachers would always tell us they were "preparing us for college." And whenever my parents refused to help me with a problem--admittedly, one I was perfectly capable of fixing myself--they would say they were "making me independant for college life." But once I actually stepped foot on campus, it was pretty obvious: Nothing that I learned in my high school days could be applied to my new life.

College is, without a doubt, a whole new ballgame.

First off, in college there is no such thing as "popularity" like there was in high school. There isn't a table during lunch where all the popular kids sit. There aren't dances that you need a date for or games where all the "cool" students sit in one section. No one cares about how you dress, because everyone looks like a slob all the time. Friends aren't made by wearing the latest trends or by sitting at a certain table at lunch. In college, you make friends by being kind and considerate. Seriously. College is stressful enough on its own; and no one has the time or the desire to hang out with negative or snobby individuals. So don't be one. In college, the people with a lot of friends are the ones who are genuinely nice to others.

In high school, I would always try to skip class. By the end of each year, my absences would be maxed out and I literally couldn't miss another day. But in college, attendance usually doesn't matter. Many professors don't even take attendance. But the thing is, in college, every class actually does matter. Admit it, there would be days you went to class in high school and probably walked out of there not having learned anything. That does not happen in college--There may be a whole section on a test of information that was covered in just one day. And conveniently, that will probably be the day you decided to take a nap instead of attend class. Before I left for my second semester of college, my dad calculated how much each class was worth: If I skipped class to take a nap, that nap would cost me $70 dollars. I haven't skipped a class since.

Another college trend: Effort is attractive. Studying hard and using your resources is not looked down upon in college, whereas in high school, my peers would always pressure me into doing something fun, rather than studying for a test. But in college, every student is paying thousands of dollars just to learn, so most take it more seriously. In college, effort is noticed, appreciated, and highly respected among college students.

Something I always disliked about high school was that I felt like I had to look, act, or talk a certain way to be accepted. And when I look back on it, that way of thinking kept me from doing a lot of things that I would have really enjoyed or excelled at.

But being a college student gives you the freedom to break out, try new things, and embrace a different side of yourself. You may have been the cheerleader in high school, but you can be a sports writer in college. Or you may have been a band kid in your hometown, but in college you can embrace Greek life. There are no labels when you take your first steps on campus. You can create your own label--and your own college identity.

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Throwback to Season 1

Every transition is a new season of the ridiculous sitcom of my life.

I have this running joke with my current friend group where I refer to some of them as the, "Season 4," cast in my life. As I've graduated high school, entered college, and then got shuffled into my major, friends have come and gone.

Every transition is a new season of the ridiculous sitcom of my life.

So, Season 4, the season of my Maturity ArcTM, where I'm bravely forging ahead with my life, taking opportunities and preparing for life after graduation. Things are going good. Great, even. So, of course, there's gotta be a callback to my Origin ArcTM.

And that's when we start bringing back the Season 1 characters that we thought were out the door.

To put it less dramatically, a friend from high school came to visit me, and we had a really fun time. No awkward silences, no not really knowing what to say to each other, we just picked up from where we'd left off.

Being fairly out of touch with my graduating class, my time with them has kind of fuzzied out in my brain, but it took maybe an hour (and three beers) for it all to come back. The embarrassing stories, the inter-clique politics, the illicit romances.

God, high school was truly one of the most infuriating times of my life, but looking back on it after having graduated almost three years ago it all seems so funny. And past that, it was just so nice to have someone who's known me for so long back in my life for a night.

If you graduated and didn't look back then that was your decision. Burn those bridges, man. Don't let anyone tell you what to do. But laughing about all the dumb shit you did or saw is miles better with a beer and an old friend than it is by yourself.

The first season may be shittier than the rest, but hey, it's there for a reason.

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Moving From A Small Town To A Big City

It is the best of both worlds.

The words small and big are kind of understatements for me. I went from living in the middle of nowhere with a graduating class of 48 students to attending a university with over 50,000 students. This sudden leap in size can be a bit of a struggle to adjust at first, but eventually you get the hang of it. Here are the ups and downs.

The struggles:
Crosswalks are a thing.
In a small town, you just walk right across the road and don't think anything of it because there is barely any traffic. But, that all changes once you go somewhere drastically more populated. Now there are cars, bikes, and buses everywhere, so you have to press a button and wait your turn to cross the street. I just find this so strange.

It's hard to find peace and quiet.
There are all kinds of noises in the city. Traffic, construction, people shouting, and sirens from various emergency vehicles are just a few of them. It is all so loud and distracting.

What you did back home is no longer normal.
Mudding. Country music. Bonfires. Driving aimlessly around. These basic things that you grew up with just don't happen in the city.

You will miss the stars.
It is such a simple thing that you won't think about it at first. Until one night, you will look up and see lights and buildings. There will be this feeling that something is missing, like the magic and beauty is gone.

The perks:
There is more to do.
Like, a lot more. There is actually a good variety of stores you can shop in. There is more than one restaurant. So many buildings with so many activities like gyms and bars. Cities just provide you with so many more options

You get to meet new people.
Back home, everyone knows everyone. From preschool to senior year, the people in my class stayed the same for the most part. There are so many different types of people and perspectives in the city. You will become friends with people you never imagined.

Food places deliver.
From Chinese food to pizza, it is all just a phone call or a click of button away. It is such a magnificent thing that you never realized you needed in your life. I mean who doesn't love food.

In the end, you really do get the best of both worlds. You get the beauty and relaxation from your small town. You get the excitement and possibilities from your big city. I call both home, and I wouldn't want it any other way.