Tips for Staying in Touch with High School Friends
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Tips for Staying in Touch with High School Friends

It's hard, but it's worth it.

As an incoming college freshman, I know I'll be on a new campus soon enough, making new friends. From what I've gathered, it's perfectly OK to not stay in touch with every single friend from high school.

It's just not reasonable if you want to make new friends in college and not spend every waking minute on iMessage or Snapchat. But, if there's a few friends from high school you'd like to stay in touch with, here are some tips for making that happen.

Tip #1
The first step in staying in touch with high school friends is choosing the friends who you really want to remain in your life. These are the select people who will be there to hear all about your freshman orientation, the crazy stories you have from college, and the ones who you can talk to about anything. This may very well mean cutting ties with old friendships because, let's be honest, not all friendships are forever. It is very difficult to do this, but sometimes it's for the better. And, always remember, nothing is forever.

Tip #2
If you want to have someone your life or be involved in their life, you have to make it a habit. If you don't get in a routine of communicating with someone, chances are, you won't. You won't get to hang out with them in person that often, so find a way to effectively stay in touch.

Tip #3
The most common way to stay in touch with people is through social media. It's easy to see what people are up to via Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Snapchat. However, you don't have to rely on social media to stay in touch. Remember that you can call or FaceTime your high school friends on a weekly or biweekly basis. It'll feel very comforting to hear their voices, almost like you're with them in real life!

Tip #4
Write letters. This may seem like an ancient way of communicating, but it is an extremely fun and personal way. It's very exciting to receive mail at college, and writing letters can be a great destresser. Buy some cute stationery and colorful pens to send letters. Exchanging letters does take time, so you won't have the pressure to immediately text or call someone back.

Tip #5
Send care packages. If you have some extra time (and money), send your special high school friends some love in the form of their favorite candy or food, a picture, and apparel from your college. This will truly make their day and show that you really do care for and miss them.

Tip #7
Visit your high school friends at their schools. This way you can temporarily be a part of their present lives. I know I'm looking forward to visiting my best friend from high school and going to basketball games at the Carrier Dome with her!

Tip #6
When you are home, make sure you set aside time to spend with your high school friends. This is your opportunity to hang out with them in person. Summer in particular is a great time to plan a weekend getaway or road trip.

Staying in touch with distant friends is a challenge no doubt, but it is possible - and well worth it.

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How to Balance Summer Classes and Your Social Life

It is definitely possible

Some of us apply for summer classes to get closer to graduation. Some of us take summer classes because we are at the finish line, and found a way to graduate early by getting the final two or three classes paid by a summer waiver.

As much as we're excited about it, there is one setback to taking summer classes. It messes with our plans for summer fun. For college students, we think of the summer as the ultimate season to let our hair down.

It's our time to retreat to another state, stock up on liquor, and just fly free. It's the only time where we can strip half-naked, drink endless jumbo margaritas, and dance our asses off until we pass out at some random person's place, wake up, detox, and then start the new day with our party jamboree all over again. That way, when fall comes we don't have to worry about adding an extra one-night stand from Tinder. We'll be so tired and grateful to be back in the halls to begin fall semester.

There is a solution for some of us who are taking summer classes. Two simple solutions.

Early morning classes and late evening classes.

The reason why you should take either of the two is very simple. Just like the fall semester, no one is around during early morning classes. If you manage to find a class at possibly 8 a.m., take it. You'll be out by 10 or 11, and you have the rest of the day for yourself. You can go out to breakfast or brunch or chill with friends and still have enough time to be ready for the night's events. The only thing is you have to be careful not to party too hard. It's going to be difficult for you to wake up and be in class by eight if you got too drunk at the party, and didn't pass out until 3 a.m.

The late evening class is another story, and in many cases, the best. If you find an evening class between five or six, take it. You'll be out of there at 8 p.m., and the night is still young. Tell your friends that you'll be at that nightclub for margaritas in a half hour or an hour, and you can party your ass off.

On the flip side, you don't have to worry about getting too drunk. If you do, there is a chance you'll wake up at eleven or noon with still enough time to get your act together before your next class begins. Just do your friends a favor and hide the textbooks.

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Calling All High School Seniors

Wait, you have to do work in college too?

I don't know if you've been told yet but the end is near, and by 'the end' I mean high school. It's time to face facts, there's more to the world than high school drama. Trust me, that bubble you've been living in is about to get violently popped. No worries though, I'm sure the air is a lot more suitable than that soapy consistency you've gotten used to.

First thing's first, college is nothing like high school. Not only are you taking classes there, but you're literally living at school. Welcome home! With that being said, it is a cultural shock. You will get homesick. There will be times when all you want is to do is be a kid again. As long as you embrace that fact now, you won't be as surprised when you get punched in the face with a ton of nostalgia.

Another difference is the size. Even if it's considered to be a small college, it's still a lot bigger than your average high school. With that added size comes the distance that a high school lacks. Which diminishes the ability for cliques to be as noticeable and as "clique-y." If you think that you're going to graduate as Regina George and be Regina George in college, you're horribly mistaken.

There are no teachers in college, there are only professors. What does that mean, you ask? It means that in college, the professors will get paid whether you pass or fail. This is where accountability comes in. You are fully responsible for your grades and everything else that you do. YOU have to make sure that papers are turned in. YOU have to make sure that you've studied. YOU have to make sure that you understand your class.

This is your future, therefore, it's your responsibility and it rests in your hands. Be careful. SHOW UP TO CLASS. I know it's tempting to stay in bed, because technically you have that choice, but trust me, that extra sleep is not worth it. Not when it comes to your GPA. Don't be afraid to ask questions. Like I said before, the professor gets paid regardless of your grade, so grow some balls and raise your hand. I guarantee that there's someone else who's asking themselves the very same question, so just go ahead and help a fellow student out.

Lastly, let's talk about parties. I know it can be really easy to turn up every weekend, and I know that the idea of partaking in things that you aren't legally allowed to partake in seems a lot more fascinating than sitting in a class preparing for a future that adds dollar signs to your bank account, but you have responsibilities. There's a strong possibility that if you party every weekend you're neglecting your responsibilities and will end up flunking out of college and living in your parents basement. It's okay to have fun, but remember that there's a fine balance between work and play.

So, just to reiterate, your freedom is in the palm of your hand. Neither your parents nor your teachers have shoved this choice down your throat. It's time to be an adult. Procrastination really does kill your GPA and your bank account (college tuition is hella expensive). Money is never easily accessible, so please don't spend it all on illegal substances.

Oh and one more thing, diversity is a real thing, not just something you see on television, so get ready for those who speak, look, and believe differently than you. All in all, college is an amazingly euphoric and self-assessing place, no need to worry about it! It's a big transition that we all have to go through.

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How to Stay Close with Your High School BFF in College

FaceTime can be so crucial.

Thousands of miles will separate you and your BFF, along with busy class schedules, finding your way around campus and trying to find your new group of friends, but you believe nothing will be able to change your cherished relationship with your best friend. You call each other "my person" and believe your friendship resembles that of Meredith Grey and Christina Yang from Grey's Anatomy.

While it may seem easy at first to keep that dialogue alive, trust me, it gets harder. They see you less and soon you are going away on vacations during breaks with your new college posse and you find yourself drifting even though they are often on your mind. Soon you find yourself tagging them in random hilarious Instagrams, instead of actually speaking to them. Here are some things to do in order to continue your unbreakable bond.

FaceTime with them weekly.
Come up with a time or day during the week that works well for both of you. Sometimes it is hard when you guys are in different time zones, schedules and locations. Seeing them once a week will make all the difference.

Make future plans that both of you could look forward to.
My best friend and I are planning to go abroad together, although we haven't physically seen each other in eight months. I know, it seems like a long distance relationship, and it is. The fact that you know you are going to have that time with them makes not seeing them that much easier.

Go and visit them.
There is nothing quite like seeing your hometown BFF at her new stomping grounds. You get to see how she has changed due to her new surroundings, but you can also meet the great new people she's made friends with so that you don't feel left out. All my best friends have visited me and it makes the long amount of separation seem like they never existed in the first place!

No excuses.
If they text you and you forget to respond that day, don't make up silly excuses as to why you didn't respond. Just tell them you completely forgot or have been extremely busy. If you lie, this will create a snowball effect. And remember, quality over quantity. It isn't about how many random meaningless texts you send throughout the day, but more so about finding out what is actually going on in their life once a week.

Relate to them.
Going to different colleges means different experiences, but also has the same feeling of unknowingness. Boy trouble, friend drama, exclusion, abundance of school work, hard decisions, potential internships or trips...There are still tons of common interests the two of you share and you can help each other by relating to one another and making them feel better.

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Why You Should Thank Your Favorite High School Teacher

They got you where you are today.

As a junior in college, high school feels like it happened a million years ago. Sometimes I think back and wonder why the hell I acted (and dressed) like I did. But one thing is for sure: I learned some pretty valuable lessons from teachers who supported me through the growing pains.

They gave you second chances.
Once you get to college, the second chance is a long forgotten privilege that no longer exists. Honestly, be thankful for the test corrections and re-dos because they won't last long.

They gave you a hiding place.
Some of my favorite times from high school were spent sitting before and after school with my friends in my favorite teacher's classroom. If you were late after the bell, they gave you a note just because (and thank God, because in-school suspension sucked ass).

They know your name.
I really freaking miss my teachers who knew my name, my parents' names, my dog's name, my second cousin, etc. It's crazy going from a personal relationship to being a number in a giant lecture class. Be thankful for the teachers who cared enough to get to know you.

They were flexible and understanding.
I'm not saying that these types of professors don't exist in college, but high school teachers care a whole lot more about your orthodontist appointment than your calc professor ever will. The concept of excused absences seems to have been lost on some professors...My high school teachers put up with a lot more than they had to.

They were your coaches, your club sponsors, and your mentors.
One of the best things about high school is the way that it's all intertwined. I'd turn in a test in my AP Government class, and then start putting on my cleats because my teacher was my soccer coach. Also, it was nice being able to keep my stack of book club books in my sponsor's classroom so I didn't risk major hallway accidents.

They got you where you are.
If you're in college now, chances are you had a high school teacher write you a kick ass recommendation letter. Thank them for believing in you and signing their name on something that said you were "a joy to work with."


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High School vs. College

It's a whole new ballgame, people.

Throughout high school, my teachers would always tell us they were "preparing us for college." And whenever my parents refused to help me with a problem--admittedly, one I was perfectly capable of fixing myself--they would say they were "making me independant for college life." But once I actually stepped foot on campus, it was pretty obvious: Nothing that I learned in my high school days could be applied to my new life.

College is, without a doubt, a whole new ballgame.

First off, in college there is no such thing as "popularity" like there was in high school. There isn't a table during lunch where all the popular kids sit. There aren't dances that you need a date for or games where all the "cool" students sit in one section. No one cares about how you dress, because everyone looks like a slob all the time. Friends aren't made by wearing the latest trends or by sitting at a certain table at lunch. In college, you make friends by being kind and considerate. Seriously. College is stressful enough on its own; and no one has the time or the desire to hang out with negative or snobby individuals. So don't be one. In college, the people with a lot of friends are the ones who are genuinely nice to others.

In high school, I would always try to skip class. By the end of each year, my absences would be maxed out and I literally couldn't miss another day. But in college, attendance usually doesn't matter. Many professors don't even take attendance. But the thing is, in college, every class actually does matter. Admit it, there would be days you went to class in high school and probably walked out of there not having learned anything. That does not happen in college--There may be a whole section on a test of information that was covered in just one day. And conveniently, that will probably be the day you decided to take a nap instead of attend class. Before I left for my second semester of college, my dad calculated how much each class was worth: If I skipped class to take a nap, that nap would cost me $70 dollars. I haven't skipped a class since.

Another college trend: Effort is attractive. Studying hard and using your resources is not looked down upon in college, whereas in high school, my peers would always pressure me into doing something fun, rather than studying for a test. But in college, every student is paying thousands of dollars just to learn, so most take it more seriously. In college, effort is noticed, appreciated, and highly respected among college students.

Something I always disliked about high school was that I felt like I had to look, act, or talk a certain way to be accepted. And when I look back on it, that way of thinking kept me from doing a lot of things that I would have really enjoyed or excelled at.

But being a college student gives you the freedom to break out, try new things, and embrace a different side of yourself. You may have been the cheerleader in high school, but you can be a sports writer in college. Or you may have been a band kid in your hometown, but in college you can embrace Greek life. There are no labels when you take your first steps on campus. You can create your own label--and your own college identity.