Are You Ready To Date In 2017?
01.10.2017 | College Life Source: @itsjuliwilliams

Are You Ready To Date In 2017?

You could be setting yourself up for failure.

It's 2017, and for many people that means creating a list of highly unattainable expectations for this "new year, new you." Maybe you've got your hopes up that this will FINALLY BE THE YEAR YOU FALL IN LOVE! Or at least have a few subpar dating experiences. Honestly, I am entirely rooting for you if that's the case.

Before you set yourself up for failure like the majority of us with your resolutions, you should probably ask yourself the following questions to see, you know, if love is actually in the cards.
1. Do you still constantly think about your ex?
Be HONEST. If that's the case, you're probably only going to be comparing any and all new people to said ex. That's not fair to them, and it's only gonna drive you crazy too. Trust.
2. Do you even have TIME for a relationship?
College is hard. We're constantly forced to micromanage our lives as if we're *adults* or something. If your main objective is to do well in your classes, that's most likely going to require a lot of library time. Aka not spend-it-with-your-SO time. If you find yourself pre-planning when to schedule in a relationship time, that's a sign of failure right off the bat.
3. Do you love yourself?
Are you going into a relationship because you want to feel good about yourself, or are you doing it because you're already at that point and are ready to share the luurrrv and ur fiiiiine self. As Rupaul perfectly put it, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?"
4. Do you have standards?
This requires some serious self-evaluation. Are you the type of person who falls for pretty much any person who even blinks in your general direction? Simply because you are THAT desperate for some sort of affection? Three words, people: Don't. Settle. Ever.
5. How's your financial situation?
This may sound ridiculous to some... but really. Are you doing this just for the chance at getting some free meals out of the deal? I definitely strung some people along this past fall for that reason alone. No shame. Ok... some shame. Basically, you should try to avoid messing with people's heads and hearts just for the occasional freebies.
6. Do you have solid, supportive friend group?
This might seem irrelevant, but it's really not. If you do begin to date, you should never put these friends on the backburner. More importantly, having a solid base that involves no sexual anything is just vital for your well-being. Who is gonna be there for you when this person ends up being just as shitty as the others? Is that just my pessimism coming through?
If you passed this test and really think you're ready to put yourself out there, congrats! And if not, that's okay too. Taking time for yourself can be just as rewarding, or even more so, especially when starting off a new year.