How To Ensure That You Didn't Peak In High School
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How To Ensure That You Didn't Peak In High School

The best is yet to come, people.

Ahh high school. Those four years were some of the most formative of your life- you had your first homecoming dance, your first real heartbreak, your first joint. It was in those hallways that you started to decide what kind of people you wanted to surround yourself with and what kind of person you wanted to be.

But there was a time and a place for all that, and if you've already received your diploma, that time is in the past. We applaud you quarterback, prom queen, and class pres. You truly reined supreme in the cafeteria. But all good things must come to end because no one wants to be that creepy grad who keeps showing up to the football games.

There's nothing wrong with having enjoyed your four years of high school, but here's how to make sure that's not where you peak.

Forget the FOMO.
Back in the glory days, parties could be few and far between. Missing a house party was sure to leave you in the dark on the juicy gossip being mulled over in homeroom and the dish on who went to third base in Kyle's parent's bathroom. But even worse than being unable to attend was receiving no invite at all...those bitches.

Nowadays if you wake up with a news feed of red solo cups, you shouldn't sweat it. Sure you want to see your own friends, but if another crew has a banger and you weren't on the list, that's just one less drunken conversation about your intended major that you have to have.

Let your demons die.
The hallways of high school were like a minefield. Not only did you have to deal with your own enemies, but those of your friends as well. Because no one crosses MY crew and gets away with it. No one.

But hey, we're all in the real world now, and even though Becca stole your prom dress when you clearly bought it first, it's about that time to stop cursing her name every time she comes up in conversation. When you can care less about all the petty bullshit that went down in high school, you know you've made it out.

Understand that high school events are for high schoolers.
Senior year you probably all made vows to come back for just one more basketball game, or crash the annual valentines party. But hopefully upon marching across that graduation auditorium packed with overeager sweaty parents, a thought struck you: I am so getting out of here.

We all remember those alumni for lingering far too many years with us in the student section or sitting in the background of parties, a little too eager to take pictures with the newly budding sophomore girls. Don't be that human.

High school was great, but there is a whole lot greater left to come. Sure, remembering those shaping years of our lives can be nostalgic, but keep it at that; distant memories you can look back on, blur out the details you didn't like, and give a little wistful sigh as you romanticize the height of your puberty.

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Watch Me Glow Up

What happens when you don't peak in high school.

Chances are, the super popular kids from your high school probably aren't doing much now. And that super shy, but seriously smart kid from your bio class freshman year is a total smokeshow and has a full ride to an Ivy League. It's the way it always goes.

And I'm also going to go ahead and take a guess that you yourself did not peak in high school. While it may have sucked at the time, you're one of the lucky ones. Here's why.

You see so many people who peaked early end up at community college in your hometown.
I'm not bashing community college here. What I am bashing is people who stick around because they're so scared to leave the small-time fame and popularity they had in high school behind.

They peaked so hard that they aren't really sure where their life will go from there. That's a pretty sad thing for an 18-year-old kid. Thank God you have plenty of peaking left to do, and can look forward to new places and new adventures without the fear that you've already experienced the best life has to offer you.

The people who were rude to you in high school want to be your best friend now.
It's a classic Cinderella story. (Wow, that was fucking cheesy.) Honestly though, high-school-wallflower-turns-successful-and-attractive-adult is a tale as old as time. Plus it always ends in "popular" kids from your high school either wanting to fuck you or be you. Too bad they didn't see how great you were then. You're on to bigger and better things.

You probably won't peak in college either.
This is just as much of a blessing as not peaking in high school is. If I have 75-plus years on this Earth I'm going to be super bummed if I hit my peak before I even turn 22. There is so much life to live after school--but you already knew that.

You're more successful than your peers.
If you didn't peak in high school it's probably because you were too busy focusing on other things. While you had your good group of friends, a thriving social life probably wasn't the top priority in your life. You were focused on grades or a passion turned side hustle and trust me, if that isn't benefiting you now, it's definitely going to.

You're more content wherever you are in your life.
You don't have any expectations for how much people will love you or how many friends you have. You're taking it day by day and enjoying everything life has to offer. It's not that your expectations are low, you've just learned from watching the people who peaked in high school that being popular and cool isn't necessarily a key to a solid life.

You have a lot to look forward to.
There is reward in not peaking too young. You get the chance to look forward to something exciting. You get the chance to live everyday knowing you're only getting better. It's all uphill from here.

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The Five F's to be F'ing Thankful for This Thanksgiving

Why not go in for seconds? And no, we're not talking about turkey.

1. Family
If you're like me, the last words you uttered to your mother as she tried not to break down in front of you some three months ago when she dropped you off at school were "See you at Thanksgiving!" (Hopefully there have been a few phone calls between now and then.)

Well, that time has come. Now you can sit back, be surrounded by people who want nothing more than to hang on your every word, and tell you (rightfully so) how smart and talented and beautiful you're getting. And when having a curfew and living under mom and dad's rules again starts to cramp your style, just remember that you only get to be with your family for a few days over the holidays, and these people are putting you through college, so be a little grateful. So indulge them when they ask you about how your roommate is for the 70th time. And spare them the details about holding her hair back.

2. Friends
Sure, first semester is full of meeting new people, but three months is nowhere near enough time to build those friendships that will be waiting for you at home this holiday season. Maybe you didn't do the greaaatest job of keeping in touch, I mean, hey, you had a new life to start! So Thanksgiving is the time to get the first inside scoop on what your friends have been up to without your ever-so-insightful advice or shoulder to cry on. Be thankful for these gals who took you in when you had braces and sported those layered A?ropostale tanks--Because if you don't put in the effort now, they could be out of your life as soon as the leftovers are gone.

3. (Old) Flings
The leaves have changed, a light snow is falling, the Thanksgiving Day football game is on TV, and something about your ex wrapped in that scarf you bought him last Christmas has you wondering why you broke up in the first place. So why not go in for seconds? The most fun hookups are the ones that you know you shouldn't be doing--but this time, no harm no "fowl." You'll be hopping the next flight on Sunday morning, and any possible regret will be erased from memory as soon as you're resurrected from your food coma.

4. First times
If the ex is too emotionally risky for you, why not try something(one) new? It looks like college worked wonders on that kid you were lab partners with in chem sophomore year. The high school stigma is gone, no one will know, and no one will care. Why not pursue this freshly blossomed cutie, or even a crush you never quite had the courage to pursue before graduation? If sparks fly, maybe you'll even secure yourself a nice FWB to cuddle with over the long winter break in the not so distant future. Just planning ahead here.

5. FOOD
We can't forget what the holiday is truly about--and don't be mistaken, it's not friends, family, or even the freakin Pilgrims. It's food, people! What better way to break the long stretch of dining hall meals than with the best food ever. Speaking for myself, I know I will be VERY grateful for stuffing, cranberry sauce, and pumpkin cheesecake this November. Today is not the day to hold back, fill yourself to the brim with home cooking while it's readily available, and have some leftovers for breakfast while you're at it.

As they say, it's the most wonderful time of the year. (That's about Thanksgiving, right?) So indulge yourself, and be thankful for the delicacies and amazing company, because it'll be back to school--and time for finals--before you know it.

Give freakin' THANKS.

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Throwback to Season 1

Every transition is a new season of the ridiculous sitcom of my life.

I have this running joke with my current friend group where I refer to some of them as the, "Season 4," cast in my life. As I've graduated high school, entered college, and then got shuffled into my major, friends have come and gone.

Every transition is a new season of the ridiculous sitcom of my life.

So, Season 4, the season of my Maturity ArcTM, where I'm bravely forging ahead with my life, taking opportunities and preparing for life after graduation. Things are going good. Great, even. So, of course, there's gotta be a callback to my Origin ArcTM.

And that's when we start bringing back the Season 1 characters that we thought were out the door.

To put it less dramatically, a friend from high school came to visit me, and we had a really fun time. No awkward silences, no not really knowing what to say to each other, we just picked up from where we'd left off.

Being fairly out of touch with my graduating class, my time with them has kind of fuzzied out in my brain, but it took maybe an hour (and three beers) for it all to come back. The embarrassing stories, the inter-clique politics, the illicit romances.

God, high school was truly one of the most infuriating times of my life, but looking back on it after having graduated almost three years ago it all seems so funny. And past that, it was just so nice to have someone who's known me for so long back in my life for a night.

If you graduated and didn't look back then that was your decision. Burn those bridges, man. Don't let anyone tell you what to do. But laughing about all the dumb shit you did or saw is miles better with a beer and an old friend than it is by yourself.

The first season may be shittier than the rest, but hey, it's there for a reason.

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The Dissipation Of The High School Friend Group

As we go on, we remember, all the times we, had together...

There comes a time in every young collegiate's life that a great schism is made. The shift when your dorm floor cohabitants or suite-mates are the ones lighting up your phone at all hours of the day rather than those og hometown homies who used to know every detail of your life, your locker combo, and where you'd be every minute between eight and 2:30.

During the beginnings of freshman year they were still there to share the intricacies of your new lives and exchange stories of your first times getting fucked up without each other. But as the weeks became months, and maybe even years at this point, they no longer were the people you dished the deets to after a wild night out or rough breakup.

Constant contact shifts to random bursts of news every so often detailing a new relationship or summer plans. But this parting of ways is only natural when you go from seeing each other every day since kindergarten to once a semester if all of your breaks happen to line up.

And while this dissipation can be disheartening, there's nothing to say it has to be.

Friends will come in and out of our lives through each phase we go through. The high school squad was exactly who you needed as an angsty budding adolescent looking for companions to share your first sips of alcohol and last school dances with. And now you'll meet and surround yourself with friends who will foster the person you'll be in college when you're experiencing the most stress and probably alcohol consumption in your life. There's no reason to say friends from either cohort won't remain in your life for years to come, but if they don't that's okay, too.

All in all, the breakdown of a friend group does not mean loss of friends. Anyone who's organized a so much as a birthday dinner knows it can be nearly impossible to organize a group of people, and being dispersed across the coast or country doesn't make it any easier. But this difficulty will only stand to clarify the friends who mean the most to you and who you want to take the time to foster the relationship with. It will be clear who values your friendship even when it means putting in a little extra elbow grease.

So if the hometown group chat isn't blowing up like it used to, or if you're not even sure what your friends are majoring in, there's no need to panic. Friends will ebb and flow, and while they may not be the most prominent factor in your life right now at school, you'll always be there for each other when you come home.

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High School vs. College

It's a whole new ballgame, people.

Throughout high school, my teachers would always tell us they were "preparing us for college." And whenever my parents refused to help me with a problem--admittedly, one I was perfectly capable of fixing myself--they would say they were "making me independant for college life." But once I actually stepped foot on campus, it was pretty obvious: Nothing that I learned in my high school days could be applied to my new life.

College is, without a doubt, a whole new ballgame.

First off, in college there is no such thing as "popularity" like there was in high school. There isn't a table during lunch where all the popular kids sit. There aren't dances that you need a date for or games where all the "cool" students sit in one section. No one cares about how you dress, because everyone looks like a slob all the time. Friends aren't made by wearing the latest trends or by sitting at a certain table at lunch. In college, you make friends by being kind and considerate. Seriously. College is stressful enough on its own; and no one has the time or the desire to hang out with negative or snobby individuals. So don't be one. In college, the people with a lot of friends are the ones who are genuinely nice to others.

In high school, I would always try to skip class. By the end of each year, my absences would be maxed out and I literally couldn't miss another day. But in college, attendance usually doesn't matter. Many professors don't even take attendance. But the thing is, in college, every class actually does matter. Admit it, there would be days you went to class in high school and probably walked out of there not having learned anything. That does not happen in college--There may be a whole section on a test of information that was covered in just one day. And conveniently, that will probably be the day you decided to take a nap instead of attend class. Before I left for my second semester of college, my dad calculated how much each class was worth: If I skipped class to take a nap, that nap would cost me $70 dollars. I haven't skipped a class since.

Another college trend: Effort is attractive. Studying hard and using your resources is not looked down upon in college, whereas in high school, my peers would always pressure me into doing something fun, rather than studying for a test. But in college, every student is paying thousands of dollars just to learn, so most take it more seriously. In college, effort is noticed, appreciated, and highly respected among college students.

Something I always disliked about high school was that I felt like I had to look, act, or talk a certain way to be accepted. And when I look back on it, that way of thinking kept me from doing a lot of things that I would have really enjoyed or excelled at.

But being a college student gives you the freedom to break out, try new things, and embrace a different side of yourself. You may have been the cheerleader in high school, but you can be a sports writer in college. Or you may have been a band kid in your hometown, but in college you can embrace Greek life. There are no labels when you take your first steps on campus. You can create your own label--and your own college identity.