How To Ensure That You Didn't Peak In High School
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How To Ensure That You Didn't Peak In High School

The best is yet to come, people.

Ahh high school. Those four years were some of the most formative of your life- you had your first homecoming dance, your first real heartbreak, your first joint. It was in those hallways that you started to decide what kind of people you wanted to surround yourself with and what kind of person you wanted to be.

But there was a time and a place for all that, and if you've already received your diploma, that time is in the past. We applaud you quarterback, prom queen, and class pres. You truly reined supreme in the cafeteria. But all good things must come to end because no one wants to be that creepy grad who keeps showing up to the football games.

There's nothing wrong with having enjoyed your four years of high school, but here's how to make sure that's not where you peak.

Forget the FOMO.
Back in the glory days, parties could be few and far between. Missing a house party was sure to leave you in the dark on the juicy gossip being mulled over in homeroom and the dish on who went to third base in Kyle's parent's bathroom. But even worse than being unable to attend was receiving no invite at all...those bitches.

Nowadays if you wake up with a news feed of red solo cups, you shouldn't sweat it. Sure you want to see your own friends, but if another crew has a banger and you weren't on the list, that's just one less drunken conversation about your intended major that you have to have.

Let your demons die.
The hallways of high school were like a minefield. Not only did you have to deal with your own enemies, but those of your friends as well. Because no one crosses MY crew and gets away with it. No one.

But hey, we're all in the real world now, and even though Becca stole your prom dress when you clearly bought it first, it's about that time to stop cursing her name every time she comes up in conversation. When you can care less about all the petty bullshit that went down in high school, you know you've made it out.

Understand that high school events are for high schoolers.
Senior year you probably all made vows to come back for just one more basketball game, or crash the annual valentines party. But hopefully upon marching across that graduation auditorium packed with overeager sweaty parents, a thought struck you: I am so getting out of here.

We all remember those alumni for lingering far too many years with us in the student section or sitting in the background of parties, a little too eager to take pictures with the newly budding sophomore girls. Don't be that human.

High school was great, but there is a whole lot greater left to come. Sure, remembering those shaping years of our lives can be nostalgic, but keep it at that; distant memories you can look back on, blur out the details you didn't like, and give a little wistful sigh as you romanticize the height of your puberty.

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Watch Me Glow Up

What happens when you don't peak in high school.

Chances are, the super popular kids from your high school probably aren't doing much now. And that super shy, but seriously smart kid from your bio class freshman year is a total smokeshow and has a full ride to an Ivy League. It's the way it always goes.

And I'm also going to go ahead and take a guess that you yourself did not peak in high school. While it may have sucked at the time, you're one of the lucky ones. Here's why.

You see so many people who peaked early end up at community college in your hometown.
I'm not bashing community college here. What I am bashing is people who stick around because they're so scared to leave the small-time fame and popularity they had in high school behind.

They peaked so hard that they aren't really sure where their life will go from there. That's a pretty sad thing for an 18-year-old kid. Thank God you have plenty of peaking left to do, and can look forward to new places and new adventures without the fear that you've already experienced the best life has to offer you.

The people who were rude to you in high school want to be your best friend now.
It's a classic Cinderella story. (Wow, that was fucking cheesy.) Honestly though, high-school-wallflower-turns-successful-and-attractive-adult is a tale as old as time. Plus it always ends in "popular" kids from your high school either wanting to fuck you or be you. Too bad they didn't see how great you were then. You're on to bigger and better things.

You probably won't peak in college either.
This is just as much of a blessing as not peaking in high school is. If I have 75-plus years on this Earth I'm going to be super bummed if I hit my peak before I even turn 22. There is so much life to live after school--but you already knew that.

You're more successful than your peers.
If you didn't peak in high school it's probably because you were too busy focusing on other things. While you had your good group of friends, a thriving social life probably wasn't the top priority in your life. You were focused on grades or a passion turned side hustle and trust me, if that isn't benefiting you now, it's definitely going to.

You're more content wherever you are in your life.
You don't have any expectations for how much people will love you or how many friends you have. You're taking it day by day and enjoying everything life has to offer. It's not that your expectations are low, you've just learned from watching the people who peaked in high school that being popular and cool isn't necessarily a key to a solid life.

You have a lot to look forward to.
There is reward in not peaking too young. You get the chance to look forward to something exciting. You get the chance to live everyday knowing you're only getting better. It's all uphill from here.

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You Don't Want To Peak In College

Cue crushing Natty can against forehead.

Have you ever met someone who peaked in college? Allow me to paint a picture for you.

A guy who peaks in college has an endless supply of midcalf socks, always leaves read receipts on and makes sure you know how ~absolutely blacked out~ he always is (newsflash: your night actually is more fun if you remember it).

A girl who peaks in college physically has to snap story so people know they're having fun, needs 75 people's advice on how to respond to a text, and always has daddy issues.

Its funny, because you don't actually want to peak in college. You want to enjoy college, but if the best you got is already over by the time you're 22... that's not a good sign.

Peaking in college is like smoking cigarettes. It feels and looks cool, but once it's finished no one gives a shit anymore. In fact, no one even remembered you were smoking in the first place. Everyone else has already upgraded to cuban cigars like a classy motherfucker, yet here you are, in the corner harping on your top frat cigarette because you can't afford a cuban.

But there are three things to prevent yourself from falling subject to this black hole.

First, don't take your image so seriously. For example, the social hierarchy will not change you. If you're genuinely the worst, I hate to break it to you, but that will simply not change regardless of your made-up social ranking.

When you leave college and your #topsrat status diminishes, you'll find yourself in the oversized shirt of a past hook up, weeping into a pint of Ben and Jerry's as "Forever Young" softly plays in the background.

Second, do what makes you happy. If that means aggressively krumping in parties to the point that it makes others around you severely uncomfortable (definitely not speaking from personal experience...), get low homie. If you concern yourself with what matters to you, then you'll find those that matter.

Third, take risks. Try out for an acapella group. Do stand-up. Contribute the unpopular opinion. Hit on your professor (jk definitely don't do that). I can tell you right now, you will always surprise yourself.

So if you want to peak in college, perhaps you should rethink that. I don't know about you, but I want to be as dope as Betty White when I grow up, and she certainly didn't limit her coolness timeline to be as small your ex-boyfriend's junk.

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Keeping In Touch With High School Teachers

Just another excuse to buy avocado toast, millennials.

Over the weekend, two of my best friends and I went to brunch with our high school senior class dean. Mr. Buckingham (Buck for short), who helped my close friends and I through senior year tremendously.

As we all exchanged stories about our school, he referred to someone as an octopus, to which I responded "Buck, you are the definition of an octopus." Buck isn't and has never been your typical high school teacher or class dean.

By octopus, he meant someone who concerns themselves in various different issues, many of which never involved them in the first place. Buck continually tried to help struggling and misunderstood students, using the-road-less-traveled-method, and stepped on many teachers toes in doing so.

Good thing he did though, because he was the only person who the students actually trusted to help them. (He was also easily the funniest, most what-you-see-is-what-you-get teacher I've ever met).

Buck is a no-bullshit, no-nonsense guy who was my absolute saving grace senior year.

But I know I'm not the only student who has a Buck. I think that everyone has had a teacher who has made a hugely positive impact on their lives.

Perhaps a teacher worked with you individually so you could have a better grasp on the material. Maybe they told you the honest truth when no one else would. Or maybe, they were simply there for you.

Our teachers before college help shape our lives and experiences significantly. They have, in one way or another, made it possible for us to go to college and be successful, and such an important relationship doesn't, and shouldn't, have to end at high school graduation.

Most students probably only have a strong relationship with a couple of teachers, which makes sense. There were many, many teachers who impacted my school experience in a wonderful way, but the relationships we developed resulted from classes or club activities.

Buck and I became close because he got to know me as a person, rather than a student. This is what made him so beloved, he gave a shit about who you were, and everything else was secondary. I only needed one exceptionally important bond, because that's the one that made the biggest difference to me.

Buck was always a day-one, real-one and continues to be just that. He continues to be a mentor to me, and the amity between a teacher and a student is wonderfully unique and in many cases, timeless. Rather than telling our teachers how much they meant to us, show it.

I really appreciate the ability to come home from school and reminisce on the past with someone who truly understands those experiences. Anyone who is an incoming freshman, cherish these bonds. Do not let them go.

College professors will never come close to your high school teachers in this way. But for those of you who have neglected to keep in touch with teachers you loved dearly, it's never too late (and usually they'll pay for your meal).

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The Dissipation Of The High School Friend Group

As we go on, we remember, all the times we, had together...

There comes a time in every young collegiate's life that a great schism is made. The shift when your dorm floor cohabitants or suite-mates are the ones lighting up your phone at all hours of the day rather than those og hometown homies who used to know every detail of your life, your locker combo, and where you'd be every minute between eight and 2:30.

During the beginnings of freshman year they were still there to share the intricacies of your new lives and exchange stories of your first times getting fucked up without each other. But as the weeks became months, and maybe even years at this point, they no longer were the people you dished the deets to after a wild night out or rough breakup.

Constant contact shifts to random bursts of news every so often detailing a new relationship or summer plans. But this parting of ways is only natural when you go from seeing each other every day since kindergarten to once a semester if all of your breaks happen to line up.

And while this dissipation can be disheartening, there's nothing to say it has to be.

Friends will come in and out of our lives through each phase we go through. The high school squad was exactly who you needed as an angsty budding adolescent looking for companions to share your first sips of alcohol and last school dances with. And now you'll meet and surround yourself with friends who will foster the person you'll be in college when you're experiencing the most stress and probably alcohol consumption in your life. There's no reason to say friends from either cohort won't remain in your life for years to come, but if they don't that's okay, too.

All in all, the breakdown of a friend group does not mean loss of friends. Anyone who's organized a so much as a birthday dinner knows it can be nearly impossible to organize a group of people, and being dispersed across the coast or country doesn't make it any easier. But this difficulty will only stand to clarify the friends who mean the most to you and who you want to take the time to foster the relationship with. It will be clear who values your friendship even when it means putting in a little extra elbow grease.

So if the hometown group chat isn't blowing up like it used to, or if you're not even sure what your friends are majoring in, there's no need to panic. Friends will ebb and flow, and while they may not be the most prominent factor in your life right now at school, you'll always be there for each other when you come home.

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How to Stay Close with Your High School BFF in College

FaceTime can be so crucial.

Thousands of miles will separate you and your BFF, along with busy class schedules, finding your way around campus and trying to find your new group of friends, but you believe nothing will be able to change your cherished relationship with your best friend. You call each other "my person" and believe your friendship resembles that of Meredith Grey and Christina Yang from Grey's Anatomy.

While it may seem easy at first to keep that dialogue alive, trust me, it gets harder. They see you less and soon you are going away on vacations during breaks with your new college posse and you find yourself drifting even though they are often on your mind. Soon you find yourself tagging them in random hilarious Instagrams, instead of actually speaking to them. Here are some things to do in order to continue your unbreakable bond.

FaceTime with them weekly.
Come up with a time or day during the week that works well for both of you. Sometimes it is hard when you guys are in different time zones, schedules and locations. Seeing them once a week will make all the difference.

Make future plans that both of you could look forward to.
My best friend and I are planning to go abroad together, although we haven't physically seen each other in eight months. I know, it seems like a long distance relationship, and it is. The fact that you know you are going to have that time with them makes not seeing them that much easier.

Go and visit them.
There is nothing quite like seeing your hometown BFF at her new stomping grounds. You get to see how she has changed due to her new surroundings, but you can also meet the great new people she's made friends with so that you don't feel left out. All my best friends have visited me and it makes the long amount of separation seem like they never existed in the first place!

No excuses.
If they text you and you forget to respond that day, don't make up silly excuses as to why you didn't respond. Just tell them you completely forgot or have been extremely busy. If you lie, this will create a snowball effect. And remember, quality over quantity. It isn't about how many random meaningless texts you send throughout the day, but more so about finding out what is actually going on in their life once a week.

Relate to them.
Going to different colleges means different experiences, but also has the same feeling of unknowingness. Boy trouble, friend drama, exclusion, abundance of school work, hard decisions, potential internships or trips...There are still tons of common interests the two of you share and you can help each other by relating to one another and making them feel better.