Handy Tips For Big Girls In The Big Apple
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Handy Tips For Big Girls In The Big Apple

Tips for the Empire State Of Mind

As a lifelong Philadelphian, street smarts, a natural appreciation for grid planned cities (please explain to me why anyone would lay out streets any way besides perpendicular?), and a general laxness about jaywalking were already well engrained in me by the time I arrived in New York City for the summer. However, as much as I love my hometown, the two square miles that encompass the whole of downtown Philly can't begin to prepare a person for the monstrosity that is Manhattan. Through my morning commutes alongside herds of interns motivated by their new resume additions, Subway rides to the West Village in a quest to fill my Instagram with more aesthetic desserts than acceptable for any white girl, and river to river runs to justify said quest, I have picked up on those few little tips that one can only learn from experience, and I am here to share them with you today! Sorry boys, but these tricks and tips to city livin' are just for the ladies who have their own special place in NYC's heart.

What's so wonderful about tip #1 is that you don't have to even be looking for this piece of advice in order to receive it! This one goes out to all of us gals with resting bitch face, or really any resting face at all.

Tip #1: "Smile More"
As the saying goes, New York is full of the happiest and most friendly people on earth, so sporting a natural ear to ear grin is pretty much expected for all of her great inhabitants... err great female inhabitants. Ladies, you're much prettier when you're smiling, and when getting from point A to point B we all know the end goal is to exude prettiness to our surroundings! So turn that frown upside-down, because if you don't, chances are the man who resides at Lafayette and 3rd will remind you to.

Manhattan is an island that is ever evolving. The skyline is forever being added to and once unvisited streets are constantly turning into retail and residential hot spots. But all of this growing up and out couldn't be done without the hard work of New York City's construction crews that line many a busy street and intersection. This next tip ensures that this great city can continue to flourish without limitation.

Tip #2: Don't be a distraction
As women, we've learned by now from years in our school systems that our bodies are vehicles of great distraction. Breasts, buttocks, thighs, heads, shoulders, knees, and yes, toes, constantly put our male counterparts at risk of diversion. Many morning commutes have taken me along sidewalks lined on either side with those hard working men whose poor heads cannot help but follow the pitter pat of my sandals on the cement. With New York temperatures breaking records it can be natural to want to indulge oneself in breezy sun dresses or skirts for work, but from experience I can confidently say that a floor length bathrobe and wide brimmed sun hat are the best ways to ensure that New York continues to prosper as an urban hub.

The most frustrating time to spend a summer in New York has got to be the months just shy of your 21st birthday... or so I thought. While the local club and bar scene are notorious sticklers for fakes, the dating scene is open to all!

Tip #3: You're never too young to have fun!
In NYC you're always meeting new people, and lucky enough, this often won't require any effort at all on your behalf! As a woman of the city, take a train, walk a block, or spend a few minutes on a park bench and a young man is soon to introduce himself before you know it! As someone who personally doesn't usually engage in activities with men who approach me, I wouldn't want to waste a minute of their time, and thereby resort to politely informing these suitors that I am of the ripe age of 16 before the conversation escalates too far. While in other cities this line has disappointed and scared of new male companions, you'll be surprised and pleased to learn that in New York my announcement has yet to fend off any new friends! Sixteen shmixteen, I still have tits, right!

This last piece of advice is one that I hope women everywhere can carry with them on their journeys through life, for it is love that makes the world go round.

Tip #4: Open your heart to love
Too many times I've watched on as women are approached, talked to, or applauded for their beauty by men who are met with harsh exclamations to "leave them alone" or "fuck off." Wounded as they are, these young men clearly have been raised to never give up, and give their tactics another go with the next female to walk by. But these high spirits can't be sustained forever, and it's time for us women to open our hearts to love. We can be better than the generations before us who rarely boast love stories about how they met their significant other when he yelled " Nice ass, sweetie!" That can be your love story! It's time to get over our self -loathing and finally allow ourselves to swoon when gifted with the compliments we truly deserve!

I hope you take these words of wisdom to heart and always remember that New York City is a place to be your prettiest, most reserved, most loving self!

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The Art of Following Up

Keep at it until you hear back.

The real world might not be as dog-eat-dog as you think, but one thing's for sure: If you're pursuing a professional career, you will miss out on a lot of awesome opportunities if you don't follow up.

I didn't always know the importance of following up. Then I read a post on following up that changed my mind. It said that if you have talked to someone at least once, you can follow up as many times as necessary until you get a "yes" or a "no."

I thought that was crazy. If I did that, I'd be written off as "that guy who keeps emailing every two days." Right? Wrong.

Now, I follow up with someone as many times as it takes. Sometimes that's been over 10 times. And, almost without fail, it works like a charm.

It took me a while to realize why this works so well. People today are busier than ever. They always have things to be doing and places to go. In fact, most professionals have inboxes and voicemails full of thousands of unread emails and countless missed calls. Their motto is, "If it's important, they'll call or email back."

In the professional world, sometimes it's all about timing. Nine times out of 10, your email will get buried or your call will go to voicemail. But once in awhile, someone will sit down, check their inbox, and your email will be at the top. Or they'll get into their office just as you call them.

Now if you've emailed or called someone you've never talked to or met, you should only follow up once or twice. But if you've met someone and they go cold on you, follow up. Even if that means 10 calls and 20 emails.

Following up that much feels weird at first. You'll feel intrusive and annoying, but after a while, you stop thinking about it. No one will hate you for following up so much. You might get a slightly bothered response here or there, but it's a lot better than the alternative.

What do you do if you don't hear back from someone after weeks? You can try contacting an assistant or colleague, but I like to send The Magic Email. (It also works like a charm.)

Remember, people need reminders. Each time you follow up, you're sending another reminder. Don't worry--it's not annoyance, it's dogged persistence, and it pays off.

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10 Things You Should Know About NYU

We hate sports, FYI.

NYU, like most colleges, has a number of unique claims to fame that set it apart from other schools. The location, the enormous size, and the diverse student body are all parts of what makes NYU the crazy place it is. Whether you're a fellow alum that can relate, or just curious about some of the unique characteristics of the school, here are some things that you should know about NYU.

We like acronyms and abbreviations.
I'm going to study for my MCC final in the ARC, if I get stuck on something I'll visit the ULC to speak with a LA before heading to Bobst. Did you get that? You must not have gone to NYU. If you did, you'd have these commonly used abbreviations down pat. (FYI: MCC= Media Culture and Communications, ARC= Academic Resource Center, ULC=University Learning Center, LA=Learning Assistant, Bobst=the library)

We don't like sports.
Well, that's a bit harsh, but slightly true. We don't even have a football team. Sports take the back burner at NYU, something astonishing to a lot of other colleges.

There is a bit of cross-school rivalry.
With so many different specific colleges under the umbrella of NYU, there is a broad range in majors, from business to arts and everything in between. Each school is associated with certain majors (and certain attitudes) that often lead to stereotypes for each school.

We think WSP is our campus.
Most of the NYU Manhattan academic buildings and some freshman dorms are centered around Washington Square park, causing us to relate this city landmark with our school. We tend to think that WSP is something like our quad, peppered with a few urban squirrels and city nuts for some spice.

YOWWO (You only welcome week once)

Welcome Week is a big deal to us. This is the week of orientation before classes start, and it's all about getting acquainted with the city, campus, and college life. Be prepared to meet some really cool people that you probably won't speak to after this fateful week, as well as some weirdos that will probably end up being your friends for the next four years.

We don't know our mascot.
Is it a bobcat? Or a violet? What is a violet? Why is there a torch on everything? When did it change? Yeah...even an informed NYUer may not be sure about our mascot, which probably has something to do with our lack of attendance at sporting events.

We have a Greek life.
While Greek life is not generally thought of as predominant at city schools, NYU does in fact have a thriving Greek life. Though it is a bit different from other more Greek-dominant schools, starting with the simple fact that frat and sorority houses take the form of the penthouses of a dorm building or an East Village apartment.

We graduate at Yankee Stadium.
The all school commencement is held at Yankee stadium, and it is quite an event. On the day of commencement we all take the subway up in our purple gowns and feel like we own the city (more than usual) as the Empire State building shines NYU purple for the graduates.

We have tons of celebrity alums.
Adam Sandler, Martin Scorsese, Aziz Ansari, Anne Hathaway, the list goes on and on, and we all love feeling like we have something in common with some badass celebs.

We have 14 global sites.
Ranging from Manhattan to Abu Dhabi, NYU has campuses across the globe, making it easy to study abroad at one of the amazing cites. As we like to say *so humbly* say, "the sun never sets on NYU".

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David Ortiz Will Have A Bench In Central Park (Video)

Just another reason Katie Nolan is the best.

Fox Sports' Katie Nolan, who hosts a show called Garbage Time, went on a quest to get David Ortiz a gift for it being his last year in the MLB. What do you get a guy that has everything already?

She came up with dedicating a bench in New York City's Central Park to Ortiz. It's perfect because it will piss off Yankee fans, just as Big Papi has done for years. Genius.

Dedicating a bench in the park costs $10,000, so Nolan started a fund where people can donate to ensure that it gets done. The piece aired Wednesday night, and by Thursday at noon people had already donated over four grand to the cause.

The Fox team bought a few domain names of benchbigpapi.com, which is ironic, as well as benchforbigpapi.com and heyletsbuypapiabench.com, all of which redirect to the site where you can donate.

Nolan has been one of the best in the business as of late (if you didn't catch her take on Greg Hardy, you need to). Good for her, she's killing it.

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New York City Survival Guide

Metro is your best friend.

Congrats! For whatever reason and for however long, you're making the move to the big city. New York really is a concrete jungle and it really is where dreams are made. It's full of character and life, adventure and experience.

However, there is a lot going on and it can be hard to adjust for some people. Luckily for you I've been there, done that, and am more than happy to share a little Big Apple wisdom with you. Because I promise you the city does not disappoint, as long as you keep a few things in mind.

1. Eating alone is totally OK and sometimes totally necessary.
If you eat alone in any average midwestern town, or any place similar, it's mostly a sad affair and a little against the social norm. In a big city like New York, it's nothing but normal. In a place where everyone is constantly so busy, sometimes a lunch alone is a break from the chaos.

There are rules, however. Never eat alone on the weekend--you should be able to find at least someone to eat with you then. Thursday nights are also a no. And never get a table for one at an overly nice restaurant.

2. The Metro is your friend. Use it.
Trust me, I get it, the Metro can be totally intimidating to those who haven't used it before. Typically I would suggest an App called HopStop, but it unfortunately no longer is with us. Really all you need to do is look at a map of NYC and go from there.

As long as you know the difference between the Uptown and Downtown trains you should have no issue. In just a matter of time you'll be hopping on trains like an old pro, knowing exactly where you're going and how to get there. Plus the train is way cheaper than taking a cab or Ubering everywhere.

3. Going to happy hour every night will not make your wallet happy.
Yes, half-priced drinks is a great deal, but even the little things add up. If you're a college student in the city for the summer, please do me a favor and keep in mind you're a college student. No need to spend money like you're Beyonce. Budget your money and figure out a Happy Hour allowance. I promise it will save you in the long run.

4. Make a point to try new things.
You're in one of the most diverse and lively cities in the world, appreciate that. Try foods from new countries and restaurants that aren't on top five lists (although you obviously should try those too). Make a point to go off the beaten path a little bit and learn more about the world you're living in.

5. Sitting and reading in the park is so underrated.
So so so underrated. I don't think a sunny day went by that I didn't spend at least 30 minutes in Washington Square with a book in my hand. It's a chance to sit down and relax in beautiful place. You'll see so many other people enjoying the day in the park and you really should take the hint. It's a true New Yorker thing to do.

6. Times Square is hell.
Just take a walk through if you haven't already. You'll never go back.

7. 5th Avenue shopping is a tourist trap.
I mean sure, it has good stores but they all have a million other locations throughout the city. Anything you can get on 5th ave you can get downtown. If you're a serious shopper you'll stick around Chelsea, Meatpacking, and SOHO areas. Broadway near the intersection of Broome is a good place to start.

8. You have no business between 35th and 49th st.
You'll pretty much only be here possibly for work or to meet friends who do work in midtown for after work drinks. Of course there are always exceptions, but for the most part Midtown is the ass of the city and not a great representation of the place.

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Eight Best Eats in NYC

It's so hard to narrow it down.

My two favorite things are food and New York City, these are a few of my go-to spots. I think that the most important part of a city is what kind of food it has to offer, right? I mean like yeah, history is pretty cool, I really love nightlife, and shopping totally rocks, but how I judge a city pretty much comes down to what I can eat.

That probably makes me sound like your 12 year old little brother, but hey, I'm just saying what we're all thinking. So let's get started.

1. Mercer Kitchen
Mercer Kitchen is my favorite spot in the whole city. Not only does the vibe of the restaurant totally killing it, the food and drinks are amazing. You may have seen this spot make its way into celebs like Bella Hadid and Kendall Jenner's Instagram feeds a time or two. The fries are amazing and the pizza is heavenly, of course the menu is full of "nicer" dishes as well. The salmon is my go to. Don't forget to try a pineapple mojito if you're there in the summer.

2. Galli
This is the OG in my heart and the first "cool" spot I fell in love with in New York. I've been going here for years and can honestly say it's become a weekly habit. There are a couple locations throughout the city, but I much prefer the one down on Mercer. They have these parm chicken sliders that are the food equivalent of an orgasm and the chopped kale salad is ah-mazing (and I'm not just saying that to sound trendy and healthy).

3. Vandal
This spot is a little newer, but I fell in love so quickly. I hit up this spot last summer for my birthday and have been back a couple times since. It's definitely on the pricier side, offering meals anywhere from $30 - $155. Clearly a spot for occasions. This restaurant may have the best vibe of them all. You feel like you're eating in an art museum, if you can't tell by the name, graffiti is a heavy theme throughout. Also, peep the newest season of Keeping up With the Kardashian's to see Kourtney and some pals grabbing dinner here.

4. Jack's Wife Freda
All I have to say it ROSE WATER WAFFLES. God's gift to brunch. Jack's Wife is pretty famous so I wouldn't be surprised if you've already heard of it. I'm just here to tell you it's serious fucking brunch goals. The spot is deep in the heart of SOHO and so so chic. I will warn my less adventurous eaters that it is a mediterranean spot so the menu is a little off the beat and path. Definitely a great spot for a lady date. Also, if you do get the rose water waffles, a glass of rose is the perfect compliment.

5. Friedman's Lunch
Also has many locations, I frequent the Chelsea Market one. This is a great spot for brunch on rainy days, being that it's inside and all. They do offer all four meals - their brunch food just happens to be my favorite. Although, they do have an amazing avocado burger available for dinner. Anyways, back to brunch. Friedman's has the best bellinis and morning cocktails - very important. I always keep it simple and go with the two egg breakfast, it comes with this super savory chicken sausage that I actually can't go without and potato pancakes that would put a jewish mothers to shame. Definitely a must. Plus, Chelsea Market is a super cool spot and a place you should check out anyways.

6. Beyond Sushi
Ok, so this one is more for those of you living in the city because it's nowhere you'd ever just go sit down and eat. You can take out or order seamless. Beyond sushi is actually not sushi at all, well, kind of. It's completely vegan and makes rolls completely composed of vegetables and sauces. It sounds weird, but the flavors are so unique and I promise you if you order it once you'll order again. And again. And again. Great for interns just looking to order lunch in.

7. Joy Burger Bar
This is by far the best hole in the wall burger place I've found in the city thus far. I introduced my friends to it and it became your go to after a night out. There's nothing fancy about these burgers, they're just greasy, delicious, and american as fuck. The place also has bomb fries and onion rings. It's pretty much drunk you's wet dream and I promise after a night out you'll thank me for this recommendation. They're located near Washington Square park, so for any of you NYU students who haven't been yet - go.

8. Little Cupcake Bakeshop
Forget Magnolias. Forget DC Cupcakes. Forget Mellisa's. Little Cupcake Bake Shop on Prince street is top dog. They're giant and delicious and a meal in themselves, because cupcakes for dinner is actually totally acceptable. They also have two locations in Brooklyn for those of you down there.