I know that some women have a harder time climaxing. I really do try to empathize, but it didn't hit me how serious an issue this is for some women until I recently had a conversation with a friend discussing whether I wanted to see this guy I met on tinder again.
Me: I don't think I want to see him again.
Friend: Wait why I thought the sex was good?
Me: I never said that.
Friend: But you said you came...
Me: Yea but I always do.
Friend: I haven't finished in like four years...
FOUR YEARS. And for me it's been less than 24 hours. I promise I'm not trying to rub it in everyone's faces. I'm simply confused, and more importantly, concerned that my friends are not getting what they deserve in bed EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.
I know that some women are anatomically more likely to orgasm based on clitoris size and location, but that doesn't mean that everyone else is doomed.
I've made it a personal mission to make sure others are getting this *full-body* experience, because I'm sure you're tired of hearing the same old advice of "you just need some more lube!"
Here are some less commonly known, but scientifically (and personally) proven ways to improve that O.
Turns out, there are certain foods that actually help you reach orgasm better by increasing your libido. One of the top choices? Oatmeal. Hell I eat so much oatmeal that alone might be the reason for my prized parts.
Another important staple? Dark chocolate. Not only does it taste great, but dark chocolate has a chemical called phenethylamine that, according to endocrinologist Dr. Pankaj Aggarwal, "triggers feelings of relaxation, intoxication and pleasure" and "stimulates physical contact desires and lowers inhibitions."
Just reading that aloud has me feeling aroused.
Watch a scary movie
Turns out, choosing that scary movie over a rom-com might actually do you some good. Watching a thrilling scary movie can increase of dopamine released from our brain, providing us with that much needed energy boost. You may not be able to fall asleep at night... but maybe that's a good thing?
Some people will just swear by Kegels, but if you don't know how to do them right they might be doing more harm than good.
A better suggestion? Targeted lower body and ab strength training. In addition to potentially helping with confidence (no guarantees), these moves can strengthen the muscles in your lower pelvis. Meaning, you know, stronger orgasm.
Believe it or not, some women have actually climaxed from exercise, in what is referred to as "coregasms". All the more reason to finally hit the gym.
Experiment with positioning
The beauty of the female vulva is that each one is different. However, this also means that certain positions won't work as well for different people. If you stay in one position, it's no wonder you're not reaching that O.
Sample some of these top-rated positions, or share with friends their favorite moves to find what works best for you.
Put down the drank
Ever wonder why after a night of drinking you suddenly feel incredibly horny? You can actually blame alcohol for that one -- scientists have found it does some pretty crazy things to our brain that can transform us into "primal sex machines".
Sounds fun, right?
The only downside is that alcohol actually numbs sensations "down there," meaning the chances of us actually orgasming just get worse. Talk about a mood killer.
Surprised by some of these? I sure was. If you're one of the 30 percent of women who haven't had much success in the bedroom, here's to hoping one of these tricks will finally help you get there!