Five Ways to Improve Your O (That You Never Knew About)
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Five Ways to Improve Your O (That You Never Knew About)

For when "you just need some more lube" won't do.

I know that some women have a harder time climaxing. I really do try to empathize, but it didn't hit me how serious an issue this is for some women until I recently had a conversation with a friend discussing whether I wanted to see this guy I met on tinder again.

Me: I don't think I want to see him again.

Friend: Wait why I thought the sex was good?

Me: I never said that.

Friend: But you said you came...

Me: Yea but I always do.

Friend: I haven't finished in like four years...

FOUR YEARS. And for me it's been less than 24 hours. I promise I'm not trying to rub it in everyone's faces. I'm simply confused, and more importantly, concerned that my friends are not getting what they deserve in bed EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

I know that some women are anatomically more likely to orgasm based on clitoris size and location, but that doesn't mean that everyone else is doomed.

I've made it a personal mission to make sure others are getting this *full-body* experience, because I'm sure you're tired of hearing the same old advice of "you just need some more lube!"

Here are some less commonly known, but scientifically (and personally) proven ways to improve that O.

Sex-boosting snacks
Turns out, there are certain foods that actually help you reach orgasm better by increasing your libido. One of the top choices? Oatmeal. Hell I eat so much oatmeal that alone might be the reason for my prized parts.

Another important staple? Dark chocolate. Not only does it taste great, but dark chocolate has a chemical called phenethylamine that, according to endocrinologist Dr. Pankaj Aggarwal, "triggers feelings of relaxation, intoxication and pleasure" and "stimulates physical contact desires and lowers inhibitions."

Just reading that aloud has me feeling aroused.

Watch a scary movie
Turns out, choosing that scary movie over a rom-com might actually do you some good. Watching a thrilling scary movie can increase of dopamine released from our brain, providing us with that much needed energy boost. You may not be able to fall asleep at night... but maybe that's a good thing?

Exercise
Some people will just swear by Kegels, but if you don't know how to do them right they might be doing more harm than good.

A better suggestion? Targeted lower body and ab strength training. In addition to potentially helping with confidence (no guarantees), these moves can strengthen the muscles in your lower pelvis. Meaning, you know, stronger orgasm.

Believe it or not, some women have actually climaxed from exercise, in what is referred to as "coregasms". All the more reason to finally hit the gym.

Experiment with positioning
The beauty of the female vulva is that each one is different. However, this also means that certain positions won't work as well for different people. If you stay in one position, it's no wonder you're not reaching that O.

Sample some of these top-rated positions, or share with friends their favorite moves to find what works best for you.

Put down the drank
Ever wonder why after a night of drinking you suddenly feel incredibly horny? You can actually blame alcohol for that one -- scientists have found it does some pretty crazy things to our brain that can transform us into "primal sex machines".

Sounds fun, right?

The only downside is that alcohol actually numbs sensations "down there," meaning the chances of us actually orgasming just get worse. Talk about a mood killer.


Surprised by some of these? I sure was. If you're one of the 30 percent of women who haven't had much success in the bedroom, here's to hoping one of these tricks will finally help you get there!

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When Tinder is Awesome

Sometimes, it's just that easy.

Tinder is not easy. Sometimes it can feel like for every 20 swipes, you only get one match, and for every 20 matches only one person responds. Not to mention that for every 20 of those responses, you're lucky if even one is a worthwhile conversation. But sometimes... well, sometimes lightening strikes and Tinder becomes truly awesome. Here are some instances of said lightning.

1. Planting false memories (aka the ole Inception pickup)

2. Sexting gone wrong (Well, at least it went right for someone.)

3. This one hits too close to home.

4. tnaillirb s'tahT

5. Name play is crucial.

6. Sometimes it's as easy as it looks.

7. Occasionally, brutal honesty is the best policy.

8. To be fair, these were all really solid guesses.

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My Dad's on Tinder and This is What I've Learned

From the most honest guy on Tinder's very observant daughter.

My dad is a walking paradox. He has certain habits he's stubborn about--like wearing a rugby polo, acid wash jeans, and Adidas superstars everyday--yet he is as spontaneous as a twenty-something. For example, he once got engaged in Vegas to someone he'd been dating for a month. He's been completely bald most of his adult life, yet the main thing he looks for in a woman is full, blonde hair. He loves deeply and is as loyal as a little puppy, yet he is a lawyer and can be as vicious as an attack dog. Anything else you want to know about my dad can be seen here or in his Tinder bio below.

Getting into the Tinder game
My parents had the perfect love story, until my mom tragically passed away from colon cancer in 2012. My dad, after experiencing the worst heartbreak of his life, joined Tinder two years later. I'm honestly proud of him. It takes a lot of balls to get back out there and start dating again. Yes, it's a little weird considering all my friends use it to hookup with strangers, but it's provided me with so much entertainment that I can't complain.

The more family pictures the better
The first step to using Tinder, according to my father, is to have lots of family pictures for your profile. If I had a dollar for every time he said, "Send me that. The babes will love it on Tinder," I'd be rich. Apparently, ladies love a family man.

Ghost them if necessary
My dad introduced me to the art of "ghosting," or ignoring someone without telling them why. He ghosts when he's uninterested but doesn't want to tell someone. Ghosting can backfire, though: my dad once promised someone he'd met on Tinder that he would fly to see her in Lake Tahoe. The catch? He'd never met this Lake-Tahoe-Hoe in person, and he told another woman he was dating that he was going for business. He ended up backing out and ghosting, causing her to blow up his phone for the next three days with threatening texts. Moral of the story is that some women will freak the fuck out if you seem interested in going on a date and then silently bail, and some will take it as a challenge and become that much more interested in dating you. So be careful with this technique.

What is my dad's secret?
He's argumentative, loud, has a dad bod, no filter, and never admits he's wrong. So why are all these hopeful Tinderellas lining up at my door to date him? Seriously, the man averages about four dates a week. The answer is threefold, with one part being that he is very aware of his flaws and will honestly admit them to anyone, even on a first date. You don't like something? Too bad.

The second part is that he is honest, respectful, has a stable job, and has normal kids. Might sound crazy, but all the other decent guys with these traits are taken or don't exist at his age.

The third and final reason? Women. Are. Desperate. I really hate to say it, but the need to settle down must increase exponentially after a certain age, and my dad capitalizes on that. You get to a point where everyone has baggage, and to find someone with limited amounts of baggage is very rare.

You get one shot
The main lesson my dad has taught me from all of this? You get one shot at finding "the one" with no baggage. You get one shot at marrying them, having kids, and getting that Jim-and-Pam type of love. If that doesn't wind up working, be prepared for baggage, and lots of it. But don't let that discourage you from starting over. It is never too late to begin again, to find love and happiness, and to get butterflies in your stomach.

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Ways to Get Exercise If You Hate Running

Running isn't the only exercise.

One of the most boring workouts is running. I think running is just awful. But I do know that I have to workout and start getting in shape.

If you hate running just as much as I do, there are plenty of ways to get exercise without having to run.

Water Aerobics
If you don't want to just swim laps in the pool, water aerobics is a great way to get exercise. Water aerobics combines different exercises as well as the resistance of the water to help build muscle and make you stronger.

These exercises range from knee lifts, jumping jacks, and lunges to using water weights, flutter kicking, and bicycling. Water aerobics is also better for your joints which is definitely a plus.

Zumba
If you love music and dancing, there are some really great classes for dance exercise. Zumba is one way to get your exercise in by dancing. It's a great way to get a full body workout and have fun while doing it too.

There are zumba classes you can join to get this dance workout. And if you want something a little more intense, they have step zumba that combines zumba with stepping. The great thing with zumba is that while it is exercise, it doesn't feel like it because you are dancing to music and having fun.

Walking/Biking
You may think that walking isn't much of an exercise, but it is. Walking is a pretty great way to work out. You can even power walk to help you get some exercise. And it's super easy to walk as a college student.

Or if you have a bike, you can bike all around campus instead of walk. I know my campus has bike lanes on the streets and there are plenty of places to lock your bike up. If a class is what you're looking for, you can do a spin class to get your exercise. Either way, both are great ways of exercising.

Rowing
You may think rowing just works out your arms, but in actuality, your entire body gets a great exercise from rowing. When you row, you use your core and legs just as much as your arms so you can truly get a full body workout.

There are rowing classes you can do to get a more comprehensive workout but you can also do rowing on your own as well. Rowing is also a stress relieving exercise as it is repetitive so if you're stressed, try rowing. Other benefits are that it's low impact, it helps your heart, and it builds muscle.

CrossFit
Don't be intimidated by crossfit. Crossfit is a high intensity workout that builds strength through a variety of challenging workouts. These workouts can include squats, pull ups, push ups, weightlifting, burpees, sit ups, lunges...etc. There are a lot of exercises that crossfit utilizes and they are all focuses on building strength, improving your heart and helping you get in shape.

You can do crossfit by yourself in your local gym or you can do a class. There are different level classes of crossfit depending on where you are, but a beginner level class is your best bet if you've never done crossfit before. However you decide to do crossfit, it's a workout that is definitely rewarding.

There are plenty of ways to get exercise without running. You just have to find the perfect workout regime for you.

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10 Things Guys Wish Girls Knew About Their Junk

Pulling out sucks, and no one wants to do it.

So in response to this article, I've decided to try to enlighten the fairer sex about some intricate details to do with our goods downstairs. Just as some (most) guys are clueless when it comes to girls and their sensitive spots, I feel that girls could do with some pointers on the topic, as well.

It's a body part, not a joystick.
You're not a pilot trying to crash land an airplane, you're trying to pleasure your fellow human being. Act like it.

Post-coital tristesse is real.
I wrote about it at length here, but a huge comedown after sex really does exist and should be taken seriously. Guys get in their feelings too, sometimes! After the deed is done, some of us just want 5 to 10 minutes to gather our thoughts and be alone. Is that too much to ask?!

UTIs aren't a girl-only thing.
Sure, girls are more likely to get it but men can get it too. Cystex is a great way to sort out your UTI problems. It's an over the counter medicine that takes your pain away until you can see your doctor. (You DO have a doctor, right?)

When it's over, it's OVER.
The head of the male genitalia gets super sensitive once climax has been reached. So whatever you were doing to make it reach that point, you can stop when it's done. Your job is done. Rest now.

Please don't make a big deal about size.
This goes both ways - big or small. It's not like he can suddenly transform it into what your ideal junk looks like. If you're not OK with it, well then I guess the door is that way...

Red means stop, as in do not pass go.
I'm talking about periods. Some guys are into the whole ketchup and the hot dog thing, the large majority are not. Is waiting three to five days too much to ask?!

Teeth are a no-no.
Teeth are for chewing food, not genitals.

Doing the weirdo stuff they do In pornos is seriously uncool.
Spitting on someone's junk is gross misconduct. Unless they're into that weirdo mess. In that case, carry on.

Blue balls are real.
When a guy gets an erection blood rushes to his balls and penis area, causing it to swell. If nothing comes out, a build up in pressure causes huge sensitivity and discomfort in the testicles. Blue balls.

So there you go, it's actually a real thing, and not some lame fable made by guys to convince you to sleep with them.

Sometimes it's really hard to pull out at the last minute.
Be it oral or vaginal, sometimes what you girls do with your goods is so good that we lose all sense of control and ability to be rational when it comes to that final moment. Sometimes the eject button doesn't work. We apologize profusely and hope you can forgive us :(

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Tinder Study Reveals Why Tinder Sucks

Shocker.

Ever feel hopelessly disappointed using Tinder? Not only by the selection, but also by the lack of actual responses beyond getting a match or really sexist pick up line?

CONGRATS! YOU'RE NOT ALONE! A study was conducted by researchers at the Queen Mary University of London, Sapienza University of Rome, and the Royal Ottawa Health Care Group to find out why we rarely (if ever) meet up and connect with our matches on the app.

It goes beyond the excuse that Tinder is just a silly app. While it may sound crazy (useful), these super smart researched from actual universities took it upon themselves to solve our dating woes. Or at least get scientific evidence to prove we're not undateable. I'll take either, really.

The researchers created 14 fake Tinder profiles and liked everyone within a 100 mile radius in London. They then noted the fraction of individuals that swiped right to match the profiles, and the fraction of people who then sent a message. Seriously, it's not that hard.

Surprise! More people swiped right to match with the female profiles (10 percent of the time) than the male profiles (6 percent of the time). Yikes... sorry dudes.

When it came to actually sending messages though, only 7 percent of the men who matched with one of the fake profiles sent a message, whereas 21 percent of women sent a message.

Wait, so you're saying men are more likely to swipe right on whoever, but never follow up with a message? I'm shocked.

The study also reinforced that women are more selective with their swipes. But turns out that might play into an endless disappointing cycle.

Think about it: if women get too many matches from senselessly swiping dudes, we try to limit it by being selective with our swipes. But this in turn "makes men even more desperate, and even less discerning about who they like."

Essentially we're dealing with a lose-lose situation.

If that weren't bad enough, Jennie Zhang and Taha Yasseri of Oxford performed a different study on an unnamed dating app similar to Tinder, and found almost half the "conversations" were messages that never got a response back. LOL, story of my life.

To make things worse, men were 11 percent more likely to get a response from sending the first message than women who initiated conversation.

*Sigh* some guys just don't appreciate when a woman messages first. As swim star Ryan Lochte was quoted in Cosmopolitan, "I don't really like that. I don't think that's a woman job."

You can handle a world record but can't handle a confident woman? JEAH, no. Stick to the pool Ryan, please.

When it comes down to it, the studies merely solidified the cold hard truth about dating apps. While I'm not saying you should lose all hope, just realize that the statistical evidence is now out there.

And for all of you who have by some means found your Tinderbae, count your lucky stars for beating the odds.