Five Ways to Improve Your O (That You Never Knew About)
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Five Ways to Improve Your O (That You Never Knew About)

For when "you just need some more lube" won't do.

I know that some women have a harder time climaxing. I really do try to empathize, but it didn't hit me how serious an issue this is for some women until I recently had a conversation with a friend discussing whether I wanted to see this guy I met on tinder again.

Me: I don't think I want to see him again.

Friend: Wait why I thought the sex was good?

Me: I never said that.

Friend: But you said you came...

Me: Yea but I always do.

Friend: I haven't finished in like four years...

FOUR YEARS. And for me it's been less than 24 hours. I promise I'm not trying to rub it in everyone's faces. I'm simply confused, and more importantly, concerned that my friends are not getting what they deserve in bed EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

I know that some women are anatomically more likely to orgasm based on clitoris size and location, but that doesn't mean that everyone else is doomed.

I've made it a personal mission to make sure others are getting this *full-body* experience, because I'm sure you're tired of hearing the same old advice of "you just need some more lube!"

Here are some less commonly known, but scientifically (and personally) proven ways to improve that O.

Sex-boosting snacks
Turns out, there are certain foods that actually help you reach orgasm better by increasing your libido. One of the top choices? Oatmeal. Hell I eat so much oatmeal that alone might be the reason for my prized parts.

Another important staple? Dark chocolate. Not only does it taste great, but dark chocolate has a chemical called phenethylamine that, according to endocrinologist Dr. Pankaj Aggarwal, "triggers feelings of relaxation, intoxication and pleasure" and "stimulates physical contact desires and lowers inhibitions."

Just reading that aloud has me feeling aroused.

Watch a scary movie
Turns out, choosing that scary movie over a rom-com might actually do you some good. Watching a thrilling scary movie can increase of dopamine released from our brain, providing us with that much needed energy boost. You may not be able to fall asleep at night... but maybe that's a good thing?

Exercise
Some people will just swear by Kegels, but if you don't know how to do them right they might be doing more harm than good.

A better suggestion? Targeted lower body and ab strength training. In addition to potentially helping with confidence (no guarantees), these moves can strengthen the muscles in your lower pelvis. Meaning, you know, stronger orgasm.

Believe it or not, some women have actually climaxed from exercise, in what is referred to as "coregasms". All the more reason to finally hit the gym.

Experiment with positioning
The beauty of the female vulva is that each one is different. However, this also means that certain positions won't work as well for different people. If you stay in one position, it's no wonder you're not reaching that O.

Sample some of these top-rated positions, or share with friends their favorite moves to find what works best for you.

Put down the drank
Ever wonder why after a night of drinking you suddenly feel incredibly horny? You can actually blame alcohol for that one -- scientists have found it does some pretty crazy things to our brain that can transform us into "primal sex machines".

Sounds fun, right?

The only downside is that alcohol actually numbs sensations "down there," meaning the chances of us actually orgasming just get worse. Talk about a mood killer.


Surprised by some of these? I sure was. If you're one of the 30 percent of women who haven't had much success in the bedroom, here's to hoping one of these tricks will finally help you get there!

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Things I Don't Understand About Girls on Tinder

Why does having a dog in your picture make such a difference?

Although I've been using Tinder for about five months now, I haven't actually met anyone in person yet. I feel like there are unspoken practices regarding the app that I'm still having trouble grasping.

For example, I first downloaded Tinder when I was traveling around Mexico. While I was there, I just had to message a girl, "Hey. How are you?" or, "Hola, amiga!" and we were conversing. Now, back in New Hampshire, all of a sudden I have to jump through hoops just to initiate a conversation with a girl. I feel like they don't want to converse like normal human beings. I always assume that they want me to throw my best line at them, which either makes them laugh or makes them designate me a total creep.

Here are a few other things that I'm having trouble understanding on Tinder:

-Girls who put their height in their bio, but then say that they aren't looking for hook-ups. This makes me think that these people all have neck problems and don't want any of the lifelong friends that they make through Tinder to be taller than them.

-Girls that write in their bio that they don't use Tinder often. I mean, it's very considerate of them to put that in there, but my question then becomes, "Why the fuck are you even on Tinder to begin with?"

-Girls that only swipe right for a guy's dog or pizza. I don't really understand the latter, but it makes me think that I need a photo of myself with a dog in one hand and a slice of pizza in the other; maybe feeding the dog the pizza?

-Girls whose heads get cut off in the first picture. Maybe this is meant to entice me to look into the matter further?

-Girls who don't specify who they are in the group photos, or girls who may have changed their hair color or lost weight from photo to photo. I wouldn't know that though, because they all look like totally different people!

-Girls who say that the age on their profile isn't their real age, but can't understand why it's like that. Why does Tinder always seems to mess up the profiles of the girls who are under 18?

-Girls who, for whatever reason, only chat with me for the length of a night. How do people lose their attention span before we've even exchanged five basic messages? And, not to go off on a rant, but these girls never unmatch with me later on; they just linger there, which leaves me wondering, "Are we playing the game still?" and, "Would it be a sign of weakness to message this chick a week after we last chatted?"

Through all the stuff I don't understand about Tinder, there are a few things that I feel I do understand. One of those things being that I think a lot of people I see on Tinder need to lower their standards, at least on Tinder, because it's only making it harder to use an app that is supposed to make it easier for people to meet.

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Tinder Study Reveals Why Tinder Sucks

Shocker.

Ever feel hopelessly disappointed using Tinder? Not only by the selection, but also by the lack of actual responses beyond getting a match or really sexist pick up line?

CONGRATS! YOU'RE NOT ALONE! A study was conducted by researchers at the Queen Mary University of London, Sapienza University of Rome, and the Royal Ottawa Health Care Group to find out why we rarely (if ever) meet up and connect with our matches on the app.

It goes beyond the excuse that Tinder is just a silly app. While it may sound crazy (useful), these super smart researched from actual universities took it upon themselves to solve our dating woes. Or at least get scientific evidence to prove we're not undateable. I'll take either, really.

The researchers created 14 fake Tinder profiles and liked everyone within a 100 mile radius in London. They then noted the fraction of individuals that swiped right to match the profiles, and the fraction of people who then sent a message. Seriously, it's not that hard.

Surprise! More people swiped right to match with the female profiles (10 percent of the time) than the male profiles (6 percent of the time). Yikes... sorry dudes.

When it came to actually sending messages though, only 7 percent of the men who matched with one of the fake profiles sent a message, whereas 21 percent of women sent a message.

Wait, so you're saying men are more likely to swipe right on whoever, but never follow up with a message? I'm shocked.

The study also reinforced that women are more selective with their swipes. But turns out that might play into an endless disappointing cycle.

Think about it: if women get too many matches from senselessly swiping dudes, we try to limit it by being selective with our swipes. But this in turn "makes men even more desperate, and even less discerning about who they like."

Essentially we're dealing with a lose-lose situation.

If that weren't bad enough, Jennie Zhang and Taha Yasseri of Oxford performed a different study on an unnamed dating app similar to Tinder, and found almost half the "conversations" were messages that never got a response back. LOL, story of my life.

To make things worse, men were 11 percent more likely to get a response from sending the first message than women who initiated conversation.

*Sigh* some guys just don't appreciate when a woman messages first. As swim star Ryan Lochte was quoted in Cosmopolitan, "I don't really like that. I don't think that's a woman job."

You can handle a world record but can't handle a confident woman? JEAH, no. Stick to the pool Ryan, please.

When it comes down to it, the studies merely solidified the cold hard truth about dating apps. While I'm not saying you should lose all hope, just realize that the statistical evidence is now out there.

And for all of you who have by some means found your Tinderbae, count your lucky stars for beating the odds.

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Ways to Get Exercise If You Hate Running

Running isn't the only exercise.

One of the most boring workouts is running. I think running is just awful. But I do know that I have to workout and start getting in shape.

If you hate running just as much as I do, there are plenty of ways to get exercise without having to run.

Water Aerobics
If you don't want to just swim laps in the pool, water aerobics is a great way to get exercise. Water aerobics combines different exercises as well as the resistance of the water to help build muscle and make you stronger.

These exercises range from knee lifts, jumping jacks, and lunges to using water weights, flutter kicking, and bicycling. Water aerobics is also better for your joints which is definitely a plus.

Zumba
If you love music and dancing, there are some really great classes for dance exercise. Zumba is one way to get your exercise in by dancing. It's a great way to get a full body workout and have fun while doing it too.

There are zumba classes you can join to get this dance workout. And if you want something a little more intense, they have step zumba that combines zumba with stepping. The great thing with zumba is that while it is exercise, it doesn't feel like it because you are dancing to music and having fun.

Walking/Biking
You may think that walking isn't much of an exercise, but it is. Walking is a pretty great way to work out. You can even power walk to help you get some exercise. And it's super easy to walk as a college student.

Or if you have a bike, you can bike all around campus instead of walk. I know my campus has bike lanes on the streets and there are plenty of places to lock your bike up. If a class is what you're looking for, you can do a spin class to get your exercise. Either way, both are great ways of exercising.

Rowing
You may think rowing just works out your arms, but in actuality, your entire body gets a great exercise from rowing. When you row, you use your core and legs just as much as your arms so you can truly get a full body workout.

There are rowing classes you can do to get a more comprehensive workout but you can also do rowing on your own as well. Rowing is also a stress relieving exercise as it is repetitive so if you're stressed, try rowing. Other benefits are that it's low impact, it helps your heart, and it builds muscle.

CrossFit
Don't be intimidated by crossfit. Crossfit is a high intensity workout that builds strength through a variety of challenging workouts. These workouts can include squats, pull ups, push ups, weightlifting, burpees, sit ups, lunges...etc. There are a lot of exercises that crossfit utilizes and they are all focuses on building strength, improving your heart and helping you get in shape.

You can do crossfit by yourself in your local gym or you can do a class. There are different level classes of crossfit depending on where you are, but a beginner level class is your best bet if you've never done crossfit before. However you decide to do crossfit, it's a workout that is definitely rewarding.

There are plenty of ways to get exercise without running. You just have to find the perfect workout regime for you.

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Your Fuck Buddy Doesn't Need To Be (And Probably Shouldn't Be) Your Boyfriend

Don't settle for mediocrity.

College relationships are weird. Some of them kick off with a booze-fueled session of bad sex followed by an awkward morning, and some expertly-crafted text messages proofread by your roommates. Either way, there's a wide gray area between never-had-sex-with-him-but-I-totally-would and exclusively-dating-only-each-other.

But in that gray area, it feels like there's some pressure to "date" someone you get along with and fuck regularly. But you know what? Every person you're slightly into doesn't have to become your boyfriend. This isn't to say that if you really do like someone, you shouldn't see where it goes. By all means, if you like someone, don't hold back! Now back to my point.

I've gotten to know a lot of great guys. Some of them started by just hanging out, enjoying each others' company, and eventually dating and having sex. Some started with a boozy bone-sesh and never amounted to anything. And some relationships just kind of developed because I slept with and hung out with the same guy for so long, it seemed like what we were "supposed" to do. The latter ended up being relationships where neither person was super happy, but carried on because there was never anything explicitly "wrong" about the relationship either.

Here's the thing: just because you enjoy someone's company and enjoy sleeping with them doesn't mean it has to be, or should be, a relationship. There should be more room for people to hang out, mutually orgasm, and enjoy that, without having to decide what it is. Maybe it's nothing. Maybe I'm not even really into you. Maybe this is just a friends-with-benefits thing. Maybe we'll get married! Who knows? Relationships aren't a race to the finish line, so take your time and figure it out.

So everyone, just relax. You don't have to date anyone. You don't have to figure it out. Ride the wave, and enjoy the good sex and the good company.

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10 Things Guys Wish Girls Knew About Their Junk

Pulling out sucks, and no one wants to do it.

So in response to this article, I've decided to try to enlighten the fairer sex about some intricate details to do with our goods downstairs. Just as some (most) guys are clueless when it comes to girls and their sensitive spots, I feel that girls could do with some pointers on the topic, as well.

It's a body part, not a joystick.
You're not a pilot trying to crash land an airplane, you're trying to pleasure your fellow human being. Act like it.

Post-coital tristesse is real.
I wrote about it at length here, but a huge comedown after sex really does exist and should be taken seriously. Guys get in their feelings too, sometimes! After the deed is done, some of us just want 5 to 10 minutes to gather our thoughts and be alone. Is that too much to ask?!

UTIs aren't a girl-only thing.
Sure, girls are more likely to get it but men can get it too. Cystex is a great way to sort out your UTI problems. It's an over the counter medicine that takes your pain away until you can see your doctor. (You DO have a doctor, right?)

When it's over, it's OVER.
The head of the male genitalia gets super sensitive once climax has been reached. So whatever you were doing to make it reach that point, you can stop when it's done. Your job is done. Rest now.

Please don't make a big deal about size.
This goes both ways - big or small. It's not like he can suddenly transform it into what your ideal junk looks like. If you're not OK with it, well then I guess the door is that way...

Red means stop, as in do not pass go.
I'm talking about periods. Some guys are into the whole ketchup and the hot dog thing, the large majority are not. Is waiting three to five days too much to ask?!

Teeth are a no-no.
Teeth are for chewing food, not genitals.

Doing the weirdo stuff they do In pornos is seriously uncool.
Spitting on someone's junk is gross misconduct. Unless they're into that weirdo mess. In that case, carry on.

Blue balls are real.
When a guy gets an erection blood rushes to his balls and penis area, causing it to swell. If nothing comes out, a build up in pressure causes huge sensitivity and discomfort in the testicles. Blue balls.

So there you go, it's actually a real thing, and not some lame fable made by guys to convince you to sleep with them.

Sometimes it's really hard to pull out at the last minute.
Be it oral or vaginal, sometimes what you girls do with your goods is so good that we lose all sense of control and ability to be rational when it comes to that final moment. Sometimes the eject button doesn't work. We apologize profusely and hope you can forgive us :(