5 Ways To Blow Off Steam This Summer At Your Awful Internship
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5 Ways To Blow Off Steam This Summer At Your Awful Internship

Don't become the real life version of that accidentally sent email trope.

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Working a terrible internship? Not really sure how to deal with the stress and demands? Well, here are a handful of ways to let loose without losing it-- or your internship.

1. Get up and go.
You've been given permission for a break, so take it. You don't have to stay on-site (well, unless your higher-up told you to). Just go for a quick spin. Pick up lunch. No car? No problem. That's where Zipcar can come in.

Join now--especially if this is a long-term, all summer long kind of deal. Or if your internship requires you to travel across state borders. If that's the case, might as well sign up for a membership, which'll travel with you.

2. Write about it.
We've all seen that ridiculous trope where someone writes their boss an angry email with no intention of sending it, but some moron clicks the send button. Then the rest of the episode centers around these friends pulling ridiculous stunts to help the "sender."

Vent about it, but don't risk this sort of situation. Invest in a cheap notebook and scribble your feelings away. It's safer than posting about it on social media (which your boss might be following you on--fair warning!). And obviously safer than an email in your drafts folder.

3. Listen to music.
If you're allowed to work on computers at your internship, invest in a pair of headphones or earbuds. Plug those suckers in and rock out to Pandora Radio as you work. I recommend The Offspring station. There's an anarchist feel to the songs on there. You'll hear Green Day, Three Days Grace, and Blink-182. Perfect for the statement of "enough of the system and the man!" without really saying it aloud. (That station is what got me through election night 2016.)

4. Break it up.
Heavy assignments of work feel super overwhelming. Getting that huge checklist is scary, right? And looking at it is even worse. Instead of looking at the to-do list as a whole, break it up into sections.

Start with the first three items and take a five-minute break to get water or walk around. Once the break's over, start the next three, then break. It makes everything feel more attainable. Besides, our brains can only handle so much work at once. Taking a quick breather can do you some good.

5. Find a support group.
It's hard going home to a family who tells you that you can talk to them about anything, but the moment it's too negative, they don't want to hear it. In that case, call a friend or roommate. Someone who's sympathetic to your situation. Or maybe befriend a fellow intern or employee to vent with.

Be careful with this last one. It sometimes backfires in your face if they rat you out to your supervisor. But also know it's just an internship. It'll be over before you know it.

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My Boss at My Internship Kissed Me and I Didn't Know What to Do

So I did nothing.

Let me explain. First, this guy is not my direct boss. He's actually one of the higher ups from an office in another city. But he does spend a lot of time in the office where I intern. Secondly, I'd like to mention that he is 40-plus years old with three children and a wife.

Here's what happened. This past week was pretty busy, which meant lots of events that week. The visiting boss was in town for those events, because it was a big networking and schmoozing week.

He invited me to tag along to these parties, which is awesome because they're a great opportunity to meet people in the industry. As an intern, that's something I really need to focus on.

I wasn't able to make all of the events because of previous commitments, but I was able to go to one at the end of the week. When I initially met up with him at the party, things seemed pretty normal.

He grabbed me a drink, which I assumed was just a courtesy thing and asked me about work, my day, etc. As the night went on, he would make little comments that made me a bit uncomfortable, but I didn't think they were red flags.

He told me he really liked my dress, that I looked nice, and that he really liked spending time with me. Later in the night he informed me that the fact I was out with him had to be top secret. Weird, right?

I chalked my nerves up to overthinking, and pushed it to the back of my mind. He had a wife and kids, so I assumed he would never be interested in me. We stayed out for a while, and at the end of the night, we went to grab a bite with a group of people.

After sitting down I mentioned I was going to use the restroom quickly. But, then he offered to accompany me. As it turns out, he had an agenda.

As I headed into a one-person bathroom, he headed in right behind me and I knew this was not going to be OK. He started to tell me that he checks me out in the office and thinks about me when he's there. Before I even knew what was going on, he leaned in to kiss me. I pushed him away, rushed out out of the bathroom, and stepped outside to get it together.

I had no idea what to do, so I went back to the table where my food was waiting and played it cool. I didn't want the people we were with to sense anything was wrong. As we were leaving, he apparently didn't get the hint and asked me to come back to his hotel with him. I quickly got in a cab and left.

This is fucked up no matter how you spin it, but what does it mean for me considering I'm an unpaid intern with no HR rights? This is clearly a huge HR problem. Would I even tell if I had the right to? Do I have the right to? These questions were in and out of my mind for days after this happened. I went into work and looked him in the eye, interacted with him, and worked with him for the next few days, playing it cool, when in reality, my skin was secretly crawling from this creep.

But again, I'm an unpaid intern, so my issues aren't "real issues" to the company. They have no responsibility to me. If I told, I was scared I would never get hired by this company, or that something worse would happen.

I couldn't help but think how messed up it was that I would be the one who would end up suffering, not my boss, if I reported this incident. Yeah, I hate sitting across from him and I hate knowing the things he thinks about me. But, I had to think about my future and my career, which ended up outweighing my discomfort.

I'm not telling you that things like this should always be kept a secret. Sexual harassment in the office is real and it is a big deal, especially if you're an intern. But, for me, this is just how I wanted to handle the situation. That doesn't mean it's how you have to handle it, too.

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Things Most People Do Later That You Should Be Doing Now

If you don't have a LinkedIn, get one. Yesterday.

College is the only time in your life where you can get blackout drunk on a Wednesday without any real repercussions. It's four years where you can have fun and be slightly more irresponsible than you can be in real life. However, if you're doing college right, you should be balancing partying with your future and professional life. Here are a few things you can do now to seriously help you later.

Create a LinkedIn. It honestly blows my mind that the whole world doesn't have a LinkedIn--and a majority of my friends who are only a few months from graduation have yet to make one. It's pretty much an online resume that lets you stay connected with all of your professional contacts, helps you find jobs, and lets companies check you out for potential employment. While this isn't the end-all of your professional life, it is definitely something employers will expect you to have, use, and keep updated. Also don't use a pic of your dog for your profile photo.

Make business cards. I've literally had business cards since I was a sophomore in high school. Yes, I can see how that may seem a little ridiculous, but it's never hurt me to have them. You never know who you might meet and I find it much more professional to hand someone my card than hand them my email/number on a Starbucks napkin. Not to mention they make a great icing on the cake when handing someone your resume. It's kind of a silent way of saying you take yourself seriously, which goes a long way when making a first impression.

Start interning. If you have the ability to intern, do it. Don't wait until your senior year. Get your internships out of the way in college so you don't get stuck doing them post-graduation. The more experience you have the more of an asset you are going to be to a company. They'll be excited to see you have a base knowledge in the industry you're pursuing. Even better, they'll see that you're motivated enough to put yourself out there and take your future by the balls.

Visit your career services office. Now I sound like a college professor, but seriously, take advantage of the resources your school has to offer--they're in place for a reason. They can help you prepare for--and even search out--job opportunities you may not have had before. Don't wait until your senior year.

Make connections. I don't care if you're a freshman or a senior, networking should be a priority. Take the time to see who your family and friends know, talk to people on the phone, email with old bosses and see what connections they have in your industry. In an ideal world, you'd get hired for a job based solely on your merit, but the truth is knowing someone goes a long way.

Get paid for what you do. Being able to show a future employer that someone has already been interested enough in your work to pay for it will say a lot. It will show that not only are you motivated enough to hold a job, but that you're talented enough that someone wants you to do that job for them.

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How to Interview for a Summer Job and Not Blow It

Be prepared, be confident.

Alright, the spring semester is over, and now it's time to go back home. If you're like me, then that means a constant stream of nagging from your parents about not having a job. So how do you avoid all that nagging? Well, you could take a summer class, but let's be honest, finals week was hell this year and you aren't ready for another round of school.

So you decide to get a job. After 20 applications, and a solid week of unanswered prayers, you finally get a break. Your friend's brother's boss calls you with a job opportunity. Great, right? Sure, if you know how to kill it in the interview he just asked for.

If you don't, do not panic. I am here to help. Here's what you have to do:

1. Dress for Success
This isn't like your 7:30 a.m. class where you can get away with wearing your pajamas. No, it's time for something a little bit nicer than that. For just your average, run-of-the-mill job interview, you want look presentable.

You can go overboard if you want, and where a suit, but typically some nice slacks and a decent shirt generally does the trick. If you are interviewing for a nicer job, however, I would consider a suit. As for the ladies, well I can't speak for you because, you know, I'm a dude.

2. Be Yourself
Odds are, if you be yourself, and you didn't lie on your application you will get the job. The interview is simply to reaffirm what the application told the employer. There is no need to try to put on a mask for the interview if your true self will come out during your work week.

3. Relax
If you aren't a people-person, then this one may be huge. Take a few deep breaths. I know that interviews can be tough, but you will get through it.

4. Be Confident
Nothing looks better to a potential employer than an employee who is confident in his/her abilities. The same can be said for dating, but that is a topic for another day.

5. Do Your Homework
I already know what you're thinking, and no you won't be tested on this type of homework. This is simply a way to be prepared for any questions the interviewer may ask. It also helps to get a general idea as to what the company you applied for is about.

6. Ask Questions
It is okay to ask a question. You won't be burned at the stake if you have an inquiry (at least I hope not). Seriously, if you have a legitimate question about the company you are interviewing for, then ask it. You may save yourself from an awkward situation later on down the road.

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Internship Diaries Week 2: Is Anyone Sane?

Another week in retail!

The answer is no. No one is sane, at least no one that I came in contact with this week. Don't believe me? Let me start with a story that will surely capture the tone of my week.

Monday morning I get into work and I'm informed there is a message from a customer that I need to attend to. I'm a little frustrated before even picking up the phone to listen to it, I've been at work for 10 minutes and already there is an issue. Little did I expect that the message was from someone's whack-job grandmother. Her request will frustrate anyone who's ever worked in retail or customer service.

She wanted me to help her locate a tee shirt she purchased two years ago. Two fucking years ago. Stellar. The chance we still sold a product from two years was slim. I called her back and after a lot of rambling she finally told me what she was looking for. I asked her to please read me the style number in the tag so I could see if we still had it. This was a process in and of itself because she literally read me the whole entire tag, washing instructions and all, before finally giving me the style number.

When I searched it I was relieved it was one of the basics we always had in stock. I thought my job was done and she could hop online and order it. Little did I know I was also going to have to teach this woman how to use the world wide web. I literally had to tell her everything down to putting ".com" at the end of the URL. I also had to tell her at least 35 times the name of the website.

Once we were there it was a struggle explaining how to shop by category and where to find the tee. Much more went into this conversation, but eventually we got the job done. She then spent five minutes telling me what a great employee I was and asking if she could talk to my boss to tell me that. Sweet, but I just wanted off the damn phone.

The rest of the week consisted of absurd tasks like:
-Tracking down the UPS man and convincing him to give us a package my boss wanted NOW.
-Completely reorganizing an entire showroom only to be told that they actually liked the original way better - so then reorganizing it.
-Spending a whole day running around town searching for chicken noodle soup. Seriously. Not kidding.

That's the thing with interning, especially in the fashion industry, and especially for free. There is no such thing as a typical day. You go into work every morning without a clue what the day is going to hold. Sometimes you end up helping a lunatic work the internet, and sometimes you get to spend the day dressing and undressing models. It's really just a gamble.

So that, my lovely readers, is exactly why this week is entitled "Is Anyone Sane?" because no one is. This week was strange and busy and stressful and the only thing getting me through is knowing that next week will be spent showing the brand's latest collection to boutiques around the city. AKA shopping days!

See you next week (send good vibes, I need them).

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Unexpected Lessons From My Internship

You know what happens when you assume...

We've all had to suffer through it, and if you haven't yet, it's on the horizon. It's become a rite of passage into the world of adulthood: the unpaid internship.

People (read, non-millennials) think we have to pay our dues in order to become a Real Adult, as if dealing with student debt, a higher rate of mental health issues than any other generation, and a crippled economy wasn't enough to put up with. These jobs are often grueling, sometimes demeaning, and occasionally downright insulting.

While internships are supposed to give you the opportunity to learn about your potential future industry, sometimes the lessons learned during the 12 weeks of summer are a lot different than what you expected.

This summer, I worked at a small, weekly publication in Philadelphia. I work for my school's newspaper throughout the year, but I still somehow had delusions of grandeur about what my internship would be like. Boy, was I wrong.

It's not as glamorous as you think it's going to be.
I showed up for my first day of work in a dress and platform sandals, partly because I wanted to make a good first impression and partly because I had no idea what the dress code was going to be. I tend to live my life by Oscar Wilde's quote, "You can never be overdressed or overeducated."

I soon found out that, for this internship, I was both. On my way out after my first day, my boss called after me, "You know, you don't have to dress that formally."

I toned it down a bit, but even though both of my bosses often dressed like they were just hanging out at home, (the editor-in-chief sometimes looked like she got dressed in the dark), I still didn't feel comfortable wearing t-shirts and flip flops to an office in Center City. I barely ever wear leggings to class (not that there's anything wrong with that, it's just not my thing), so there's no way I was wearing a t-shirt to my internship.

Your co-interns will probably suck.
I don't know why, but I went in with the expectation that my co-interns would be, at the bare minimum, competent. Unbeknownst to me, barely any of them knew how to do any of the basics of reporting: interviewing, writing, and researching all seemed far beyond their reach.

A few days into the internship, my boss began sending me articles to "clean up," and I quickly learned that "clean up" meant "rewrite the entire thing," because none of what I was editing was publishable. I don't know how these other interns got hired, or if they have any writing experience, but I do know that it's a miracle they're passing their classes because they have next to no writing ability whatsoever.

There are probably days you'll feel more competent than your bosses.
On one memorable occasion, a co-intern (the only other competent one) and I were working on a project that our boss had re-assigned to us after the other interns fucked it up. The deadline to submit to the printer was at 3 p.m., and at 2:30 p.m., our boss was still scrambling for content to fill that week's issue.

I thought that the point of internships was to learn from people with more experience, but sometimes it really does feel like you're more prepared to do a job than your boss is. I'm the managing editor of my school's newspaper, and I know that I would never, ever allow my staff to cut it that close. There's a line between things falling through and being unprepared, and I'm about 95 percent sure that that afternoon was a result of the latter.